At some point in all of our lives, our inboxes and our mailboxes start to fill up with more wedding save the dates and invitations than our social calendars can properly digest. We’ll start making off dates on our calendar and before we know it, we’ll realize that we’re going to more weddings in a year than we can count on one hand, and even actually afford to go to.

 

But what happens when you have two friends getting married on the exact same day, at the exact same time? Do you have to choose one wedding over another, and if so, how do you pick? Or, can you just find a way to go to both?

 

The first thing you should consider is location. If they are both in the same city, you can make a case as to why and how you’ll find a way to go to both. If they are a half hour or more apart, it’ll be quite hard and stressful to make it to both.

 

You can always say I do to going to one person’s ceremony and the reception of the other person. If you chose to do this route, let the couple whose ceremony you’re going to know that you won’t be staying for the reception. That way, they don’t pay the bill for you to be included in their catering headcount.

 

If you decide to try to split your time at both parties, remember that with traffic and other unavoidable challenges along the way, you may end up showing up to wedding number two when guests are starting to leave.

 

So only say yes to two weddings if you can get travel to both easily and fast. If not, go to the wedding of the person who has been in your life longer. It’s the best way to pick between weddings and the only way you won’t hurt the feelings of the couple you have to RSVP no to.