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If you find yourself waking up in the middle of the night having panic sweats over your guest list and the outrageous outfits some of your guests might show up in, you might want to consider sending over some ground rules so that your family and friends know what to wear and what to absolutely, no matter what, wear to your big day.

You might think it’s obvious to most that they shouldn’t wear white, wear jeans, or go barefoot to a formal wedding, but it might just be something they don’t realize until they show up and stick out amongst your well-dressed guests.

To make sure you don’t have any fashion emergencies here’s a wedding dress code letter that you can pass along to your nearest and dearest wedding guests.

Dear Friends,

We are so excited to have you at our wedding in just a few months. Everything is falling into place, from the food that will be making your stomach smile with glee to the beverages we’ll make sure we stock the open bar with. We’re also in the market for the latest and greatest songs that get you pumped up so we can add them to our wedding playlist. We can’t wait to see your classic moves on the dance floor soon!

As you’re planning for the wedding, one of the biggest question marks floating through your head is probably around what you should wear to our big day. We thought we’d make things easier on your noggin’, your closet, and your credit card (we don’t want you to splurge on an outfit just for us) with a guide that’ll point you in the right direction as to what you should wear and what you should save for a different occasion (like a funeral, graduation party, or even family BBQ).

Let’s start with your feet. The venue has a shoe policy which means ‘no shirt, no shoes’ will equal a big problem. We ask that you wear you’re finest pair of dress shoes, heels, or dressy flats. Save those beach flip flops or scuffed up sneakers for the post-wedding brunch, or for the middle of the reception when you’re spending quality time on the dance floor.

When it comes to your outfit, we ask that you keep it formal. That means suit pants, jacket, dress shirt, and tie. Yes, bow ties are OK. So are clip-on ties. If you want to wear a tuxedo, we totally welcome that. But you can also wear a fitted suit jacket too. Keep the jeans, a tropical printed shirt, workout shorts, or the casual t-shirt in your suitcase. We’re hoping the atmosphere of our wedding is one that blends with the price tag of the whole day – expensive and a touch fancier than we usually are.

If you’re wearing a dress, please wear one that makes you feel wonderful. It can be long or short, but we ask that it’s something that you also feel comfortable in when you’re on the dance floor. We don’t want you to have to hug your chair because your dress is keeping you from doing the Electric Slide.

I know my outfit is one that should be kept a little bit of a secret so I’ll only tell you this much: I am wearing white. Which means that I ask you to pick any other color for your suit or your dress. Black, purple, champagne, magenta – really, anything else but white! Yes, that means colors like off-white or beige should be out ruled out too.

If you’re not sure what to wear to a formal wedding, let Instagram and Pinterest be your best friend. You can also spend a few dollars on renting a nice tux or a dress from a clothing rental company so that you don’t have to spend big bucks on an outfit you might not wear again for a while.

We can’t wait to see you and your formal digs soon!

With love,
The Engaged Couple



Last week, during the 9am hour, I was back on the Today Show, besides Dylan Marie Dreyer, sharing more of my personal story and hearing more about what life has been like, over the past four years, as the world’s first Bridesmaid for Hire.

What you won’t see is how much work it takes to get on the show. How, as my own PR manager for the past 4-years, it takes so many emails, so many moments of rejection, so many close calls, so many hours of preparation, so many stares in the mirror fighting off all the self-doubt and what ifs.

What you will see,  is a 30-year-old woman who has built a little something out of a Craigslist ad that most people thought was nothing more than just a silly and crazy idea, who has found a way to keep going, even when the world would have forgiven her for giving up, all in the name of not proving anyone wrong, but proving herself right.

Enjoy it here:



The moments right after you get engaged can feel like some of the happiest moments of your life. You’ll want to share your excitement with your family members, your friends, and of course your fiance. But as the week goes on, you’ll notice that the pre-wedding headaches start to knock on your door. People will be asking you if you’ve picked a date yet and you might even be asking yourself if it’s too early to get to work on your wedding to-do list. So right after the question has been popped and right before the wedding planning stress comes to sweep you off your feet, it’s important to take a step back and do these three things the week you get engaged.

1. Celebrate the Milestone

Enjoy the bliss around your engagement for as long you can. It’s a huge milestone for both you and your partner. You have both looked each other in the eye and said, “Let’s build a future together!” Whether you plan a formal engagement party with family and friends or you just make a point to do something special with your partner to celebrate, make time to make your engagement moment truly special.

2. Make a Must-Have List

Moments after you get engaged, it will feel like you and your new fiance are going straight in decision making mode, picking out a date that you want to get married on, selecting the types of flowers you want for your bouquet, and even wondering who you’d like to ask to be part of your bridal party. But before you sign on the dotted line with any wedding vendors or ask your friends and family members for their opinions, make a wedding must-have list. Agree on ten things you want to have at your wedding, whether it’s a specific type of cocktail or even a dessert. That way, as you begin to plan out your budget and make big decisions, you’ll have a list of what matters most to prioritize.

3. Plan a Getaway

You’ll need it! Wedding planning will quickly start to equal parts stressful and equal parts chaotic. A month or two in, you’ll be craving a mini-vacation that takes you and your fiance away from the decision making and the conversations you’re having with friends and family members about your big day. That’s where an Engagement-Moon comes in to save the day. A trend that BRIDES magazine has named one of the most popular wedding trends of 2018, is an easy way to press pause on your to-do list and get away for the weekend.

Manoir Hovey, an intimate Relais & Châteaux resort in the Eastern Townships of Quebec, has an Engagement-Moon package that you won’t find anywhere else.

Their “Engagement-Moon” weekend retreat is from July 20-22th 2018.  It is where couples can decompress and rekindle their relationship as they get tips for planning a great wedding.

Couples who book the Engagement-Moon will savor delicious food and drinks, enjoy activities like biking, paddle boarding, foraging, and yoga, and participate in workshops with *ME*. The fun and interactive sessions will feature such topics as:

  • From the Royal Wedding to the Latest Must-Have: Stunning Wedding Trends for Your Big Day
  • Old School: How to Incorporate the Best Wedding Traditions and Etiquette Into a Modern Wedding
  • He Said, She Said: Keeping the Peace and Managing Difficult Conversations
  • Bridesmaids and Groomsmen and In-Laws: How to Handle the People Who Are by Your Side During the Wedding Process
  • Things to Do Together Before Getting Married

Learn more about the Engagement-Moon here!