Whether you’re the kind of person who love to plan parties or the type of person who practically breaks out into hives when it comes to making any type of decision, having a team of people to turn to for advice or help will make the wedding planning process a more enjoyable and stress-free experience. That is, only, if you know how to delegate tasks to them and how to make sure that team of gal pals isn’t stepping on your toes. If you have an eager to help mother of the groom, here are 8 simple ways you can include her in your wedding planning process.

1. Give Her Specific Tasks
Chances are the mother of the groom is going to text you, call you, stop by in person and ask how she can help out with any and all things relating to the wedding. Instead of having her take on some tasks you’d prefer to do yourself, give her a list of things she can take ownership of and on her own, so she doesn’t accidently or purposely step on your toes.

2. Ask Her to Come Along With You
Heading to a cake tasting or dress fitting? Give the mother of the groom a ring and invite her to come along with you. Just including her in little things like this will be almost gigantic things for her.

3. Put Her in Charge
If you’re dealing with a very type-A mother of the groom, the best way to handle her is to put her in charge whenever you need a break from making decisions. Say you can’t decide between three different photographers, let her make the final choice. Giving her doses of power like this will help make her feel involved.

4. Work Together
Wedding planning doesn’t have to be something you lock yourself in a room alone and handle. Ask your mother and the mother of the groom to join your team and have them be your cheerleaders and your consultants.

5. Let Her Know Your Non-Negotiables
Some mothers of the grooms like to plan things and make wedding decisions for you, without you. If there are certain things you absolutely want control over, let her know what those things are so she has a heads up that she shouldn’t step on your toes.

6. Pull in a Detail From Her Wedding
One of the nicest things you can do is include a detail, item, or tradition in your wedding from her wedding. Maybe you can use framed photos from her wedding or even serve the main dish that she had at her reception.

7. Let Her Pick Out Her Dress
You may want to keep control over what your bridesmaids wear, but let the mother of the groom and your mom pick out their own dress. There’s nothing better than a supportive mother of the groom wearing a dress she feels ultra confident in.

8. Remember to Give Thanks
You may get so consumed in all the details, the planning and the pre-wedding chaos to take a step back and thank the mother of the groom for everything she’s done to help out, whether it’s big or small.