Having a bridal shower is an age-old tradition that gathers together the key women in your life for a pre-wedding celebration. Whether you’re keen on having bottomless mimosas or a brunch that’ll keep your guests bellies full between then and the wedding, you may wonder what else you absolutely have to have at your shower.

The answer is: nothing. You can make your bridal shower what you want. Kick the idea of a sit-down affair to the side and instead do something active, like an afternoon of bowling or a paint night. If you’re wondering what rules you can forget about for your bridal shower, to make it less formal, here are 6 of them you can leave at home.

1. Opening Gifts
One of the main events at any bridal shower is when the bride-to-be opens up her gifts. It can be such a long process and even make guests feel weird, since they may not have spent as much as the person next to them. It’s something you can let guests know you’ll do when you go back home and you’re alone, with your fiancé.

2. Playing Games
Your bridal party may want to have the guests at the shower play games that have them guessing facts about you and your fiancé. If that makes you awkward or you’re just not in the mood to explain your “how we met story” you can skip the games all together or approve them beforehand.

3. Making it Girls Only
Want to invite some of your close guy friends to your bridal shower? Why not! instead of making it girls only, extend an invite to relatives or even your best friends that just so happen to be males.

4. Having a Formal Registry
Your bridal shower is the time when your guests buy you thinks off your registry. If you’re not looking for another blender and you already have a good set of dishes, register for out of the box things instead. You can put a honeymoon or house-fund on there instead.

5. It’s For Wedding Guests Only
Have friends you weren’t able to invite to your wedding because you’re trying to keep the main event small? Invite them to be guests at your bridal shower instead.

6. Someone Else Foots the Bill
If having someone else pay for your bridal shower makes you feel uncomfortable, pick up the check yourself or hand over the money to the person who is planning the shower and let them know you’d like to pay for this.