Weddings, like pimples, rise to the surface with a bubble of unexpected ooey gooeyness. You’ll find yourself riding a wave of many different emotions, starting with a chill of excitement over your new engagement and potentially ending with a case of cold feet. So if you find yourself weeks away from walking down the aisle, but you’re starting to question if this marriage thing if what you really want to do, here are a couple of ways to handle pre-wedding cold feet.

 

 

1. Go Far, Far, Away

Hop in the car. Get on a train. Brush the dust and spider webs off your bike and get away. I’m not saying runaway from it all and start a new life some place where people don’t know your full name. I’m just saying that when you feel like your wedding and your potential decision to marry this one person forever is starting to make you break out into hives, it’s a good idea to take a break and go some place new. That way, you can clear your head for a day or two before returning to any and all wedding chaos.

 

2. Talk It Out

Dial a close and trusted friend or family member and let them know how you’re feeling. Sometimes just talking out what’s going through your head and why you think you have cold feet could make you feel a whole lot better. It can also make you realize things you couldn’t process on your own, when the thought and feeling was just floating through your head.

 

3. Be Open and Honest

Have a pow-wow with your fiance and let them know that you’re not sure about this whole thing. It’s okay to second guess it and have doubts. Nobody is ever 100% sure they are making the right decision when they enter into marriage; so don’t feel alone admitting these feelings to your partner.

 

4. Spend Some Alone Time

If the thought of going far away for a day or two scares you, just schedule in an hour or afternoon of you time. Eat at your favorite restaurant or sign up for your favorite workout class. Just having some alone time can help you clear your head and help you better digest and understand the feelings you’re having about cold feet.

 

5. Take a Wedding Break

If your cold feet are something you can’t kick so easily, you may need to take a little break from all things weddings. Put a temporary block on continuing working on wedding plans or even take a step back from being engaged. Do what you need to do, even if that means pushing back your wedding date or even putting the whole entire thing on hold.