When you’ve said I Do to taking on the maid-of-honor duties for one of your closest friends in the world, it’s likely you’ll also take on a long list of things you’ll be eager to get done to help out the bride before it’s time to walk down the aisle. But along with your list of do’s, you should also make a list of things you should completely avoid doing at the wedding too. Here are 7 of those things.

1. Give a Long Toast

You may have an urge to chat about every single memory you have with the bride and run through a list of inside jokes between the two of you, but in order to keep the room full of guests happy and awake, keep your toast under 3-minutes long.

2. Have too Many Drinks

Just because the bar is open and you’re ready to kick back and celebrate your maid-of-honor duties coming to an end, remember that all eyes are on you as the bride’s go-to gal pal for the night, so avoid getting to drunk to function.

3. Change Into Her Own Dress

Even if the MOH dress the bride picked out for you to wear isn’t flattering or something you’d usually wear, stick with the dress for the wedding night and then toss it in the trash.

4. Leave the Wedding Early

The wedding day is a very long day and even if you’d like to sneak out early to hit the pillow, stay as long as you can to help the bride keep the party going and to be there in case she needs any last minute help.

5. Make the Day About You

Check your drama at the door and leave your complaints for the day after. Remember, the wedding day isn’t about you, so if something is bugging you, try to take a deep breath and carry on.

6. Complain to the Bride

If it’s too hot out or you don’t like the way your hair came out, complain to anyone and everyone else but the bride. She’ll be dealing with enough stressful moments, so avoid overwhelming her with any extra ones.

7. Show Off All Her Dance Moves

It’s okay to be the life of the party at the wedding, but try not to overshadow all the other guest and the main characters of the night, which is the couple getting married.