Think having to buy an expensive dress or getting your hair and makeup done a certain way is the most annoying part of being a bridesmaid? Well some bridesmaids find things that make them roll their eyes even more. Whether it’s the amount of money they have to shell out for certain pre-wedding occasions or the fact that they aren’t invited with a plus one, even though they are part of the bridal party, being a bridesmaid can make you feel equal parts excited and frustrated. Just take a look at these 7 bridesmaid pet peeves from real 2016 bridesmaids.

1. The Shoes
“People always complain about the dress. In my situation, the dress was a breeze. We all had to wear the same black dress and it was fine and not too expensive. But the shoes – oh wow. That was a whole other nightmare. We had to all buy these purple sequence shoes. They cost me $195. I have never spent that much money on a pair of shoes in my life. These shoes are so weird looking that I will never wear them again.” – Teresa K., 29

2. Spending too Much on a Bad Fitting Dress
“Buying an expensive and ugly dress I’m only going to wear once is my least favorite thing about being a bridesmaid. I did it twice this year so far and am out $540. If I never say yes to being a bridesmaid again, this is why.” – Sandy G., 28

3. Not Getting a Plus One
“I am usually the only single bridesmaid, since everyone in my group of friends is engaged or married. I haven’t had a boyfriend in years, but I am actively dating. That being said, it would be kind for brides to give me a thank you gift in the form of a plus one. That way, I wouldn’t be the third wheel all night long at the wedding. I was a bridesmaid in March and the other 4 bridesmaids had husbands. I was at their table, alone. I had no one to dance with or talk to.” – Hannah E., 31

4. Having to Get Hair Extensions
“My biggest bridesmaid pet peeve is when the bride makes us change our appearance for her wedding. For a wedding in January, the bride told us all we had to grow our hair out 5 inches. Mine wouldn’t grow so she made me buy $200 extensions to wear.” – Brenda W., 27

5. Being Told Where to Be
“I was a bridesmaid four times this year so far. The most annoying part of being a bridesmaid was following rules and being told where to be. I felt like my life was on a constant scheduled controlled by wedding babysitters. It was just annoying. If I was three minutes late, all the girls rolled their eyes at me.” – Rachel M., 25

6. Learning How to Bustle the Dress
“One thing no one teaches you how to do is bustle a wedding dress. It’s so incredibly hard. When I did it in March, I broke three nails and broke out in hives from the pressure and sweat. I ended up having to keep the dress up with duct tape. Seriously, it’s my least favorite thing about being a bridesmaid.” – Penny S., 26

7. Not Getting Any Cake
“At every wedding I went to this year as a bridesmaid, and I went to three, I didn’t get to have any cake. I don’t even know why. I think I was busy just making sure the guests were having fun and the bride wasn’t mad at me. I just missed the cake all three times. That’s why I like being a guest. You can do what you want.” – Nina D., 26