The Ultimate Guide to Planning a Couple Shower in 2024

Hi, Friend! Jen Glantz here. I’m a bestselling author, the first ever bridesmaid for hire. Let’s talk about planing a couple shower.

Planning a couple shower can be loads of fun, but it’s also a lot of work. There’s so much to think about – the date, theme, guest list, food, decor, and more! It’s easy to feel overwhelmed. But don’t worry, I’ve got your back. This guide will walk you through everything you need to know to throw an amazing couple shower in 2024 that the happy couple and guests will love. By the time you’re done reading, you’ll be a couple shower planning pro!

First, a quick definition – a couple shower is a pre-wedding celebration that honors both members of the couple, not just the bride. It’s a more modern, inclusive take on the traditional bridal shower. Couple showers are a great way to celebrate the couple’s love story and bring together family and friends from both sides.

Okay, let’s jump into the nitty gritty of planning this shindig!

TL;DR: Quick Takeaways

• Couple showers are a modern, inclusive pre-wedding celebration honoring both members of the couple
• Choose a date 1-3 months before the wedding that works for the couple and most guests
• Pick a theme that reflects the couple’s interests and helps guide other planning decisions
• Keep the guest list to close friends and family from both sides, usually under 50 people
• Plan activities that are interactive and enjoyable for all guests, not just the couple
• Provide a range of tasty food and drink options that accommodate different diets and preferences
• Use decor, entertainment, and personal touches to make the event feel extra special and memorable
• Send invitations 6-8 weeks in advance and ask guests to RSVP 3-4 weeks before the event
• Help guests mingle with icebreakers and by making personal introductions
• Consider using technology for invites, guest management, virtual attendance, and sharing photos
• Create a budget and look for ways to save by making decor, going potluck style, etc.
• Don’t forget to send thank you notes and share photos after the event!

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Planning a Couple Shower

I know planning a couple shower can seem daunting, but you’ve got this! The key is to stay organized and work closely with the guest of honor couple to make sure the event reflects their style and preferences. Breaking things down into manageable steps makes it much less overwhelming.

First, sit down with the couple and get a sense of their vision. Do they want a laid-back backyard BBQ or a fancier cocktail party vibe? Are there any must-have elements or things to avoid? Getting on the same page early on will make your job as host a lot easier.

It’s also smart to loop in the couple’s wedding party and close family members for help. Delegate tasks like making decorations, prepping food, and setting up so you’re not stuck doing it all solo. Planning a couple shower takes a village!

Once you’ve got a general sense of the couple’s wishes and your support squad assembled, it’s time to dive into the specifics. The major things to nail down are the date, location, guest list, theme, menu, and activities. Don’t let yourself get bogged down in the tiny details yet – focus on the big picture stuff first.

One last tip before we get into the nitty gritty of planning – make a couple shower checklist with all your to-do items and deadlines. This will be your game plan and saving grace. Refer to it often, update it as you make progress, and savor that sweet satisfaction of checking things off. You’ve got this!

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Selecting a Date for Your Couple Shower

Choosing the date for the couple shower is a biggie, so it’s good you’re focusing on this first. Once you have your date in mind, you can tackle all of the other details.

The key is to pick a date that works for the couple and most of the guests, especially those VIPs that absolutely must be there (like the couple’s parents and wedding party). This can be tricky with everyone’s crazy schedules, but it’s doable.

A good rule of thumb is to hold the couple shower 1-3 months before the wedding. This allows enough buffer time from the big day but isn’t so far in advance that the pre-wedding excitement hasn’t kicked in yet. Of course, there are always exceptions depending on circumstances. If most guests are traveling from out of town, a shorter lead time of 3-6 weeks can work. Or if you’re eyeing a holiday weekend date, more advance notice is better. Use your best judgment.

Here are some other tips for landing on the perfect shower date:

• Consult with the couple first. Get a few date options from them and then run those by the VIP guests before finalizing. The couple gets first say, but the host has to make it work for the majority.
• Avoid major holidays and peak travel times. Holidays can be super busy and expensive for guests. Unless you know most invitees have that holiday off, it’s best to steer clear. The same goes for peak travel times like spring break or summer weekends in popular vacation spots.
• Consider other pre-wedding events. Check in with the couple and wedding party to make sure you’re not overlapping with other festivities like the bachelor/bachelorette parties, wedding dress shopping, or other showers. Space things out so guests don’t have to choose between events.
• Factor in the weather. If you’re planning an outdoor shower, have a backup plan in case of bad weather. For example, a tent or indoor option if rain is forecasted. No one wants a washed out celebration.
• Set an RSVP deadline. Give guests at least 3-4 weeks to respond so you can get a headcount for food and drink. Put the RSVP-by date on the invitations, usually 2-3 weeks before the event.

With all these considerations, it’s normal for it to take a bit of back and forth to get the date just right. Try to nail it down at least 2 months in advance so you can send out invites and start planning the details. Trust me, it feels so good to have the date set so you can move forward full steam ahead.

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Choosing a Theme for the Couple Shower

Now that you’ve got the date locked and loaded, let’s move on to one of the most fun parts of couple shower planning: choosing a theme! The theme sets the tone for the whole event. It helps guide the decor, menu, invitations, favors, and activities. So it’s kinda a big deal.

When brainstorming theme ideas, start with the couple’s interests. What do they enjoy doing together? Maybe they love trying new restaurants, going to concerts, playing mini golf, or doing escape rooms. All of those could be spun into a creative theme! “Around the World” food stations, “Festival Vibes” outdoor games, “Retro Rec Room” with mini golf and board games… you get the idea.

You could also do a theme that reflects their love story, like a “Tailgate Party” for a couple that met at a football game or “Love is Brewing” for lovebirds that bonded over their favorite craft beer. Think about inside jokes, their go-to date spots, fandoms they’re into, hobbies they share, and so on for inspo.

Pinterest and wedding blogs are great resources for trendy couple shower theme ideas too. Some popular ones I’ve seen:

• Travel: “Adventure Awaits”, vintage maps, luggage tag seating cards, food from places they’ve traveled
• Brunch: mimosa bar, waffle station, breakfast foods, coffee mug favors
• Garden Party: tea sandwiches, floral decor, lawn games, fancy hats
• BBQ/Picnic: gingham, mason jars, comfort food, pie bar, outdoor games
• Wine/Beer Tasting: charcuterie spread, tasting flights, coasters or glasses as favors

Truly, the options are endless. Don’t be afraid to get creative and put your own unique spin on it. And remember, you don’t have to go super elaborate or have every little detail match the theme. Just capturing the general vibe is enough.

Once you’ve settled on a theme, it’s time to start weaving it into the details. The invitations are a great place to start. You can set the tone by using fonts, colors, and graphics that give guests a sneak peek of the theme. For a “Fiesta” theme, go with bright colors, a piñata image, and wording like “Let’s Taco ‘Bout Love.” For a “Glamping” theme, use a woodsy background, campfire icon, and phrasing like “S’more Love to Celebrate.”

Carry the theme through to the decor too. Continuing with the Glamping example, you could set up a cozy tent lounge area, have tables with lanterns and pine centerpieces, a trail mix bar, and use bandanas as napkins. It doesn’t have to be over the top – just a few key elements that tie things together.

Themed food and drinks are another fun way to reinforce the vibe. Name dishes and cocktails to match, like “Tents-and-Beans Chili” and “The Happy Camper” rum punch. Serve s’mores or pie iron pizzas. You could even have a “Campfire Songs” playlist going in the background.

Last but not least, incorporate the theme into the activities. For Glamping, set up yard games like cornhole and giant Jenga. Have a scavenger hunt or nature walk. Make friendship bracelets or do a couples questionnaire around the faux campfire. The key is to make it interactive and enjoyable for guests.

I could go on and on, but you get the idea. The theme is the foundation that everything else builds upon. So take some time to brainstorm, bounce ideas off the couple and wedding party, and then commit to one you love. It’ll act as your planning North Star from there on out. Happy theme picking!

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Creating a Guest List for the Couple Shower

Time to talk guest list. This can get a little tricky because you want to include all the couple’s nearest and dearest without the guest list getting out of control. The sweet spot for most couple showers is around 30-50 people. Big enough to feel festive, but not so huge that it’s overwhelming to plan or stops feeling personal.

So who gets an invite? The core group is usually:

• Close family: parents, siblings, grandparents, and aunts/uncles of the couple
• Wedding party: bridesmaids, groomsmen, ushers, flower girls/ring bearers and their parents if they’re young
• Close friends: The couple’s BFFs from childhood, college, work, etc. Use your judgment based on the size of the friend group.
• Other key people: The couple’s mentors, neighbors, colleagues – people who have played an important role in their lives outside of their family or wedding party
• Plus ones: It’s nice to allow long term partners, engaged significant others, and fellow wedding party member dates. You don’t have to let every guest bring a date though.

One thing to keep in mind is that the couple shower guest list doesn’t have to exactly match the wedding guest list. It’s usually a smaller, more intimate group. So don’t feel like you have to invite Great Aunt Sally just because she’s invited to the wedding. The couple shower is for those nearest and dearest to the pair.

That said, there may be some politics at play depending on the couple’s family dynamics. If the bride has three sisters who are all invited but the groom only has one brother, try to even things out by inviting a few of the groom’s close cousins or friends. You don’t want one side to feel underrepresented.

Another tip is to make sure you’re not leaving out any important people who might expect to be included, like a close childhood friend or mentor. When in doubt, check with the couple. They may have some opinions on the guest list too.

Keep in mind that not everyone you invite will be able to attend, especially if they have to travel from out of town to be there. Expect about a 20% decline rate. But definitely invite them anyway so they know they were thought of! You can send them a little “wish you were here” note with some photos after. And if you do end up with more RSVPs than you expected, just roll with it. The more the merrier!

Once you’ve finalized the guest list, it’s helpful to collect everyone’s contact info like mailing addresses and email addresses for sending invites, updates, and thank yous. Put together a master spreadsheet as you go along. And don’t be shy about reaching out to mutual connections to track down any missing details.

For the invitations themselves, give guests all the key details they need to plan ahead like:

• Date, time, location – Be specific! Include the full address and any special instructions like parking or public transit options
• RSVP date and method – Make it easy for guests to RSVP by a certain date, either via mail, phone, email, or online. Give them at least 3-4 weeks heads up.
• Couple’s registry info – It’s fine to include registry details or a link on the invitation so guests can shop if they want to bring a gift. Make it clear that gifts are optional though so guests don’t feel obligated.
• Dress code (if any) – Let guests know if there’s a preferred attire for the event, like “dressy casual” or “beach chic.” Totally optional but it can help them plan their outfit.
• Any other key details – If there’s anything else guests should know, like “light bites will be served” or “kid-friendly activities will be available,” include that too.

Send out invitations about 4-6 weeks before the event to give guests plenty of notice. You can do paper invites, digital invites (more on that later), or both. Just make sure you have everyone’s correct contact info and follow up with anyone you don’t hear back from by the RSVP date.

Whew, guest list – check! It’s a bit of a process but it’s so worth it to have all the couple’s favorite people there to celebrate them. Next up: planning fun activities to keep the good times rolling.

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Organizing Activities for the Couple Shower

Alright, you’ve got the date, theme, and guest list squared away – now it’s time to plan the couple shower activities! This is your chance to get creative and make sure guests have a great time mingling and celebrating the happy couple.

Grab our Newlywed Card Game. It makes for a great couple shower game and honeymoon treat!

When brainstorming activity ideas, keep these things in mind:

• The couple’s interests: Choose activities that reflect their hobbies and personalities. Are they board game buffs? Plan a game tournament! Foodies? Do a cooking demo or tasting. Music lovers? Host a lip sync battle or hire a guitar player for campfire songs.
• The guest list: Make sure there’s something for everyone to enjoy. If there are kids coming, plan some age-appropriate activities like a scavenger hunt or craft station. If there are older guests, have some low-key options like a trivia game or slideshow of the couple’s photos.
• The theme: Tie the activities into your overall theme if possible. For a travel-themed shower, you could do a “passport” activity where guests move around to different food/drink stations and get their passport stamped. For a summer camp theme, set up classic games like cornhole and capture the flag.
• The venue and logistics: Make sure you have enough space and supplies for the activities you have in mind. If you’re doing anything messy (painting, frosting cookies), cover surfaces and have cleaning supplies handy. If you need special equipment or tools, arrange those in advance.

Okay, now for some specific activity ideas to get your creative juices flowing!

Couple-Focused Activities

• The Nearly-Wed Game: This is a classic shower game where you test how well the couple knows each other. Ask them questions like “What’s their favorite food?” or “Who said ‘I love you’ first?” Invite guests to guess their answers too! This card game helps make that game happen.
• Couples Crossword: Create a custom crossword puzzle with clues related to the couple’s relationship, like where they met or their pet names for each other. Guests can work on it throughout the shower and whoever gets the most correct wins a prize!
• Date Night Idea Station: Set up a station with pre-made cards that have date night ideas on them. Guests can fill them out with their own creative ideas and drop them in a jar for the couple to use after the wedding. You could also do a “recipe for a happy marriage” version where guests write their best relationship advice.
• Couple’s Trivia: Put together a list of trivia questions about the couple’s love story, quirks, and adventures. Divide guests into teams and see who knows them best! You could also do a slideshow of photos and have guests guess where/when they were taken or what was happening in each one.

Interactive Group Activities

• DIY Stations: Set up different stations where guests can make something to take home, like mini succulents in painted pots, homemade soap or bath bombs, or personalized wine glasses. Bonus points if it ties into your theme! For a tropical theme, you could decorate flip flops or sunglasses.
• Lawn Games: If you’re outdoors, set up some classic lawn games like giant Jenga, cornhole, croquet, or bocce ball. For a little friendly competition, have guests face off in a bracket-style tournament throughout the shower. The couple could award silly superlatives like “most enthusiastic” or “best victory dance.”
• Group Art Project: Have guests contribute to a special piece of art that the couple can display in their home. It could be a painting, a quilt square, a scrapbook page, or even a graffiti wall depending on the couple’s style. Set out a variety of supplies and have guests get creative!
• Cooking or Cocktail Demo: Hire a pro or enlist a talented friend/family member to lead a cooking or cocktail making demo for guests. They can share recipes and techniques while making yummy bites or sips for everyone to enjoy. Get the couple involved by having them choose their favorite dish or drink to feature.

Chill Hangout Activities

• Board Game Station: Set out a variety of board games and let guests play at their leisure. Choose games that can accommodate different group sizes and skill levels. Giant Scrabble or Yahtzee are always a hit!
• Karaoke: Rent or borrow a karaoke machine and have guests take turns belting out their favorite tunes. You could even put together a custom song list with the couple’s favorites and songs that are meaningful to their relationship.
• Tarot or Palm Readings: Hire a professional tarot or palm reader to give guests personalized readings. It’s a fun and unique activity that’s sure to spark some interesting conversations! Just make sure the couple is into it first.
• Chill Lounge Area: Sometimes guests just want to hang out and chat. Create a comfy lounge area with plush seating, throw pillows, and maybe even a cozy fire pit if you’re outdoors. Stock it with the couple’s favorite snacks and drinks so people can relax and mingle.

Remember, you don’t have to go overboard with a million different activities. Pick a few key things that you know the couple and guests will enjoy. And be sure to space them out throughout the shower so there’s a nice mix of structured and unstructured time.

It’s also a good idea to have a loose agenda for the day so guests know what to expect. You can include it on the invitations or have a sign at the welcome table. Something like:

• 1:00 – Guests arrive, mingle, and play lawn games
• 1:30 – Lunch is served
• 2:00 – Couples trivia game
• 2:30 – Dessert and coffee bar opens, karaoke begins
• 3:00 – Gift opening
• 3:30 – Tarot readings and DIY candle making station open
• 4:00 – Cake cutting and champagne toast
• 4:30 – Mingling and farewells

With a mix of activities that guests can opt in and out of, everyone is sure to have a great time celebrating the happy couple. And that’s what it’s all about! Coming up, we’ll dive into the food and drink side of things. Get ready to salivate!

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Food and Drink for the Couple Shower

In my professional bridesmaid opinion, the food and drink can make or break a couple shower. Okay, that might be a bit dramatic. But seriously, good eats and tasty sips are a surefire way to win guests over and keep the party going.

When planning the menu, consider these factors:

• Time of day: Are you hosting a brunch, lunch, or evening shower? That will help dictate the type of food you serve. Brunch could be bagels and frittatas, lunch could be sandwiches and salads, dinner could be heartier appetizers or a full meal.
• Guest preferences and restrictions: Check in with the couple to see if they’re aware of any guest allergies or dietary restrictions. You’ll want to have options for vegetarian, gluten-free, etc. It’s also a good idea to have a mix of healthier and more indulgent choices.
• Crowd size: If you’re feeding a big group, consider foods that can be easily mass produced like sheet pan nachos, mini quiches, or pulled pork sliders. For a smaller crew, you can do more labor-intensive dishes like individual charcuterie cones or crostini.
• Theme: Carry your theme over into the food and drink selections. For a fiesta theme, do a taco or fajita bar. For a tropical theme, serve coconut shrimp skewers and mango margaritas. For a tea party theme, have dainty sandwiches and mini scones.
• Couple’s favorite foods: Incorporate the couple’s go-to dishes, restaurants, or cocktails for a personal touch. If they love a certain pizza place, serve that! Or name a signature cocktail after their pet or a special date they had.

When it comes to the actual menu, variety is key. You’ll want to have a mix of appetizers, mains, sides, and desserts so there’s something for everyone. Here are some crowd-pleasing ideas:

Appetizers

• Bruschetta bar with assorted toppings
• Caprese skewers
• Spinach artichoke dip with crostini
• Mini crab cakes with remoulade sauce
• Prosciutto wrapped asparagus

Mains

• Build your own sliders bar (BBQ pulled pork, buffalo chicken, black bean)
• Grilled pizza station with assorted toppings
• Taco bar with all the fixings
• Poke bowl station
• Pasta bar (penne with marinara, pesto tortellini, fettuccine alfredo)

Sides

• Summer corn salad
• Caprese pasta salad
• Grilled vegetable platter
• Lemon orzo salad
• Parmesan truffle fries

Desserts

• S’mores bar with assorted cookies and toppings
• Mini mason jar pies or trifles
• Donut bar with assorted glazes and toppings
• Chocolate covered strawberries
• Boozy popsicles

Drinks are just as important as the food, so don’t skimp on the sips! In addition to basic sodas, iced tea, and lemonade, consider offering:

• Signature cocktail: Create a custom drink for the couple or have his and hers options. Make a big batch in a beverage dispenser so guests can help themselves.
• Mocktails: Have a tasty non-alcoholic option for guests who don’t drink or are pacing themselves. A ginger-mint spritzer or blackberry-basil smash would be refreshing.
• Local craft beer and wine: If the couple has a favorite local brewery or winery, feature some of their picks. You could even do a craft beer or wine tasting activity.
• Interactive drink station: Let guests customize their drink with a bloody mary bar, mimosa bar, or spike-your-own cider station in the fall. Put out assorted mixers and toppings.
• Coffee and tea: Especially for a brunch shower or toward the end of the event, offer a gourmet coffee and tea station with fun mix-ins like flavored syrups and cinnamon sticks.

A note on food and drink safety: If you’re serving anything that needs to be temperature controlled (meat, dairy, etc.), be sure to keep it properly chilled or heated until serving time. Have serving utensils for each dish to avoid cross-contamination. And if you’re serving alcohol, be sure to have plenty of water and non-alcoholic options available, plus snacks to munch on. Encourage guests to pace themselves and never let anyone drive drunk.

Lastly, don’t feel like you have to make everything from scratch! There’s no shame in the Costco or Trader Joe’s game. Supplement homemade dishes with pre-made crowd pleasers like frozen quiches, veggie platters, and cookie trays. Your sanity is worth more than being a hero in the kitchen.

Coming up, we’ll talk decor, favors, and other special touches that will elevate your couple shower to legendary status! Catch you on the flip side.

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Hosting a Memorable Couple Shower

You know those parties that you look back on and think, “Wow, that was EPIC”? The ones that give you the warm and fuzzies and make you grin like a fool? That’s the vibe we’re going for with this couple shower.

Throwing a memorable event is all about the details. The little personal touches and thoughtful elements that show you put time and love into it. It doesn’t have to be over the top or crazy expensive. Just a few special somethings to make it feel extra.

One of the easiest ways to do this is through the decor. Whatever theme or vibe you’re going for, carry it through in the tablescapes, signage, and overall ambiance.

For example, let’s say you’re doing a boho picnic theme. You could:

• Set up low tables with colorful blankets and plush pillows for seating
• Use basket-weave chargers and wildflowers in mason jars for centerpieces
• String up twinkle lights or use lanterns for a soft glow as the sun goes down
• Have throw blankets rolled up in cute baskets for guests to cozy up in
• Create a large welcome sign with a saying like “Love is a Wild Adventure”

Or let’s say you’re going for a tropical tiki vibe. You could:

• Hang up grass skirts, surf boards, and colorful beach umbrellas
• Use coconuts or pineapples as vases for bright flowers
• Set the tables with banana leaf placemats and tiki-themed dishware
• Give guests leis or tiny paper umbrellas for their drinks as they arrive
• Have a “message in a bottle” station where guests can write notes to the couple

See how those little touches can really bring your theme to life and make the space feel special? Pinterest is your best friend for this sort of thing. Create a board for your shower and start pinning inspo photos to get your creative juices flowing .

Another way to make the shower memorable is through interactive elements. Anything that gets guests mingling, moving, and making memories. Here are some ideas:

• Couple’s Trivia Walkabout: Post trivia questions about the couple throughout the space and have guests try to answer them as they mingle. The guest with the most right answers wins a prize!
• Advice Station: Set up a station with notecards, pens, and a cute drop box. Have guests write their best relationship advice or date night ideas for the couple. They can drop them in the box anonymously or sign their name. The couple can read them on their honeymoon!
• Scavenger Hunt: Create a list of silly or sentimental items for guests to find throughout the shower, like “something blue,” “a photo of the couple as kids,” or “a guest who has known the couple the longest.” They can work in teams and the first to find everything wins!
• Roaming Polaroid Camera: Assign a guest to be the “paparazzi” for the day, snapping Polaroid photos of guests with fun props or in front of a themed backdrop. They can add the photos to a scrapbook or photo garland as a keepsake for the couple.
• Group Craft or Game: Pick an activity that everyone can contribute to, like decorating a large initial for the couple’s new last name, adding a “leaf” to a thumbprint guest book tree, or playing a giant game of Jenga with blocks that have questions on them. It’s a fun way to get everyone engaged!

Speaking of keepsakes, favors are another great way to make your couple shower stand out. Skip the boring Jordan almonds and give guests something they’ll actually enjoy and use. Here are some trendy favor ideas:

• Succulents or seed packets – perfect for a garden party or boho theme
• Local honey, jam, or hot sauce – support a local business and give guests a tasty treat
• Homemade cookies or truffles – package them in a cute box or tin with the couple’s initials
• Mini champagne or wine bottles – add a custom label with the couple’s names and wedding date
• Charity donation – in lieu of physical favors, make a donation in each guest’s name to a cause close to the couple’s heart

One last thing: music! Never underestimate the power of a good playlist to set the mood. Work with the couple to create a mix of their favorite songs, from upbeat jams to get people dancing to sentimental slow songs for the feels. You can even throw in a few love-themed classics like “Signed, Sealed, Delivered” or “Crazy in Love.”

Of course, you’ll want to read the room and adjust accordingly. If guests seem more into mingling and chatting, keep the music low and in the background. If they’re getting their groove on, crank it up a notch! You could even have a “request” jar where guests can suggest songs for the couple’s wedding reception playlist.

At the end of the day, the most memorable thing about the shower will be the love and laughter shared among friends and family. All the little details are just the icing on the (wedding) cake. So don’t stress too much about everything being Pinterest-perfect. Focus on creating a warm, welcoming vibe and the rest will fall into place.

Next up: all the nitty gritty logistics you need to know to make this thing happen! Get ready to talk budgets, checklists, and all that good stuff. Meet ya there!

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Gifts and Favors

Alright, let’s talk about everyone’s favorite part of a couple shower (besides the food and drinks, obviously): the gifts! While the main point of the shower is to celebrate the couple and shower them with love, let’s be real – people love to give presents. It’s a tangible way to show their support and help the couple build their new life together.

First things first: make sure the couple has a registry (or two or three). Some popular options are:

• Honeyfund for a honeymoon or experience registry
• Amazon, Target, or Bed Bath & Beyond for traditional home goods
• Williams Sonoma or Crate & Barrel for higher end kitchen items
• REI or Backcountry for outdoorsy gear
• Etsy or UncommonGoods for personalized or unique gifts

Once they’ve registered, be sure to include the registry info on the shower invitations so guests know where to shop. You can list the specific sites or just say “The couple is registered at [store names]” and let guests do the Googling.

Now, I know what you’re thinking: “But what if I want to go off-registry and get them something unique?” Here’s the deal. While it’s okay to get a small bonus gift that made you think of the couple or that fits the shower theme, it’s generally best to stick to the registry for the main gift. The couple took time to select items they really want and need, so trust them on it.

If you really want to get creative, consider doing a group gift with other guests. For example:

• All the bridesmaids could pitch in for a big ticket item like a KitchenAid mixer or Roomba
• Coworkers could go in on a gift card to the couple’s favorite restaurant or a cooking class
• Childhood friends could make a scrapbook or memory box filled with photos and mementos
• Family members could contribute to a down payment fund for a house or a honeymoon excursion

The key is to coordinate with other guests so you’re not doubling up on gifts or blowing the budget. Talk to the maid of honor or another VIP to get the inside scoop on what others are planning.

Okay, so you’ve got the gift situation sorted. But what about those favors we mentioned earlier? While they’re certainly not required, giving guests a little token of appreciation is a nice touch. Here are some more ideas to spark your creativity:

• Edible treats: Cookies, truffles, popcorn, granola, hot cocoa mix, infused olive oil – anything yummy and easily packable!
• Mini plants: Succulents, herb seedlings, flower seed packets – perfect for green thumbs or boho vibes
• Pampering goods: Hand lotion, lip balm, bath salts, face masks – who doesn’t love a little self-care?
• Drink accessories: Bottle openers, coasters, koozies, wine charms – practical and fits with a boozy theme
• Charitable donations: Make a donation in each guest’s name to the couple’s favorite charity – it’s a win-win!

Whatever you choose, tie it into your theme for a cohesive look. For a beach theme, fill mini bottles with sand and shells. For a coffee bar theme, give out personalized mugs or local coffee beans. For a literary theme, choose a book of love poems or a cute bookmark.

One more tip on the favor front: presentation is everything! Dress up even the simplest favor with cute packaging, like:

• Mini mason jars tied with ribbon or twine
• Brown kraft boxes with a custom stamp or sticker
• Clear cellophane bags with a colorful tag
• Washi tape and baker’s twine for a shabby chic look
• Glassine envelopes with a wax seal for a vintage vibe

Remember, favors don’t have to be big or expensive to make an impact. It really is the thought that counts! Even a handwritten note or poem tucked into a simple envelope can be meaningful.

So there you have it – the 411 on couple shower gifts and favors. A little thought and creativity go a long way in making your guests feel appreciated and enhancing the overall vibe of the event. Plus, who doesn’t love a good party favor? (The answer is no one. No one doesn’t love a good party favor.)

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Etiquette and Best Practices for a Couple Shower

Alright, let’s take a quick detour into the wild world of couple shower etiquette. I know, I know – etiquette sounds about as fun as a root canal. But trust me, knowing the basic do’s and don’ts will save you a lot of headaches in the long run.

First up: who hosts? Traditionally, the maid of honor and bridesmaids throw the bridal shower, while the groom’s family or friends might throw him a separate party. But for a couple shower, anything goes! It could be:

• The couple’s parents or siblings
• A group of the couple’s friends
• The maid of honor and best man teaming up
• The couple themselves (though this is less common)

The key is to communicate with the couple and make sure everyone is on the same page. You don’t want to step on any toes or plan something the couple isn’t comfortable with.

Next question: who pays? Again, it varies. Often the host(s) will foot the bill, but sometimes the couple’s parents or other family members will chip in. Have an honest conversation up front about the budget and who is contributing what. That way there are no surprises down the line!

Okay, let’s talk guest list. The general rule is anyone who is invited to the shower should also be invited to the wedding. You don’t want to invite someone to celebrate the couple if they won’t be there on the big day! The exception is if you’re having a very small or destination wedding – then it’s okay to have a larger shower guest list.

As for who makes the cut, it’s usually:

• Close family members (parents, siblings, grandparents, aunts/uncles, cousins)
• Wedding party members and their significant others
• Close friends of the couple
• Coworkers or other important people in the couple’s life

When in doubt, defer to the couple. They may have strong opinions about keeping it small or including certain people. You can also ask if they want to invite kids or keep it adults only. Just make sure to communicate any age restrictions on the invitation so there’s no confusion!

Speaking of invitations, let’s talk timing. You’ll want to send them out about 4-6 weeks before the event. This gives guests plenty of time to RSVP and shop for gifts, but isn’t so far in advance that they’ll forget about it.

Include all the essential deets like:

• The couple’s names (duh)
• Date, time, and location of the shower
• RSVP deadline and method (mail, email, online, carrier pigeon)
• Registry information
• Dress code (if any)
• Parking or transportation instructions
• Any special notes (kid-friendly, adults only, bring a recipe card, etc.)

One more thing on invites: don’t forget to include the host(s) name(s)! This lets guests know who to thank and can reach out to with any questions. You can say something like “Hosted by [names]” at the bottom of the invite.

Alright, moving on to gifts. We covered this earlier, but just to recap: it’s totally fine (and encouraged!) to include registry info on the invite. Most couples will register for physical gifts like home goods, but some might prefer a honeymoon fund or experience gifts. Others might request no gifts at all and just want guests to come celebrate! Respect their wishes and spread the word to guests.

If a guest brings a gift to the actual shower, have a designated place for them like a gift table or corner. You can even get cute with it and have a “wishing well” or “bucket of love” for cards and smaller gifts. Just make sure someone is keeping an eye on the gifts so nothing gets lost or stolen!

As for opening gifts, it’s up to the couple. Some love the tradition of opening each gift in front of everyone, while others prefer to do it privately later. If you do decide to open gifts at the shower, keep it moving along – no one wants to watch the couple open 50 different sheet sets! Have someone jot down who gave what for thank you notes later.

Finally, let’s talk thank yous. The couple should send a heartfelt note to each guest who attended, thanking them for coming and for any gifts they brought. Ideally these should go out within a month of the shower, but we all know life gets crazy! As long as they get ’em done before the wedding, it’s all good.

Whew, that was a lot of etiquette! But see, it’s not so bad when you break it down. The main things to remember are:

• Communicate with the couple and hosts about expectations and preferences
• Give guests plenty of notice and include all necessary info on invites
• Respect the couple’s wishes around gifts and guest list
• Have a plan for gift storage and opening
• Thank guests in a timely manner

Easy peasy, right? Okay, maybe not easy peasy, but totally doable! And at the end of the day, as long as the couple feels loved and celebrated, you’ve done your job. The rest is just details.

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Guest Interactions During Your Couple Shower

Alright party people, let’s talk about the most important part of any couple shower: the guests! Sure, the food and decor are great, but it’s the people that really make the party. And as the host, it’s your job to make sure those people are having a good time and feeling the love.

First things first: introductions. Chances are, not everyone at the shower will know each other. Maybe the bride’s college roommate has never met the groom’s sister, or the couple’s work friends haven’t mingled with their childhood besties. It’s up to you to get the party started and break the ice!

One easy way to do this is with name tags. But don’t settle for boring “Hello My Name Is” stickers – get creative with it! You could have guests write their name and relationship to the couple, or answer a funny prompt like “What’s your go-to karaoke song?” or “What’s your favorite memory with the couple?” It’s a great way to spark conversations and help guests find common ground.

You can also assign seating to mix things up and encourage new friendships. Try to seat people with similar interests together, or put a chatty guest next to a quieter one to balance things out. Just be sure to run the seating chart by the couple first to avoid any awkward exes-at-the-same-table situations!

Another way to get guests mingling is with interactive activities. We talked about this a bit earlier, but things like a scavenger hunt, couple’s trivia, or group crafting can really bring people together. Plus, it takes the pressure off of guests who might feel awkward making small talk with strangers.

Of course, there will always be some guests who are more outgoing than others. As the host, it’s your job to make sure everyone feels included and comfortable. If you notice someone hanging back or looking lonely, go strike up a conversation and introduce them to others. You can even deputize some of the more social guests to help with this!

On the flip side, there may be some guests who are a little too comfortable – we all know that one uncle who loves to tell inappropriate jokes or the bridesmaid who’s had one too many mimosas. In these cases, it’s okay to gently redirect the conversation or suggest a new activity. You don’t have to be confrontational, but do keep an eye out for any behavior that might make other guests uncomfortable.

One thing that can help with guest dynamics is having a loose schedule. People like to know what to expect, so having a general timeline of events can make them feel more at ease. You can even print out little programs or have a chalkboard sign with the day’s agenda. Something like:

• 12:00 – Guests arrive and mingle
• 12:30 – Brunch is served
• 1:00 – Couple’s trivia game
• 1:30 – Gift opening
• 2:00 – Dessert bar opens
• 2:30 – Group photo and farewells

Of course, be flexible and read the room – if guests are really enjoying an activity or conversation, don’t cut it short just to stick to the schedule. The goal is to keep things flowing smoothly, not to run a military operation!

Another tip for keeping guests engaged is to have plenty of food and drinks available. Hungry people are grumpy people, so make sure there’s enough sustenance to keep everyone’s blood sugar up. Plus, having a variety of options (including non-alcoholic drinks and vegetarian/gluten-free bites) shows that you’re considerate of different dietary needs.

Finally, don’t forget about the little touches that can make guests feel extra welcome. Things like:

• A basket of throw blankets or pashminas if it gets chilly
• Baskets of flip flops or slippers for guests to change into if their feet hurt from dancing
• Bathroom amenities like mouthwash, hairspray, and safety pins for wardrobe malfunctions
• A phone charging station so guests can snap pics all day without running out of juice
• To-go boxes or bags for leftover favors or treats

Remember, the little things can make a big difference in how guests perceive the event. If they feel like you’ve thought of everything and gone the extra mile to make them comfortable, they’re more likely to have a great time and sing your praises as a host.

At the end of the day, the most important thing is that guests feel the love and joy of celebrating the happy couple. Encourage them to share stories, give toasts, and soak up all the warm fuzzies. After all, that’s what this whole shindig is about!

And if all else fails, just keep the bubbly flowing and the tunes pumping. A little champagne and Dancing Queen can cure almost any party faux pas!

Next up: we’re diving into the world of technology and how it can help (or hinder) your couple shower planning. Get ready to talk hashtags, Spotify playlists, and more!

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Incorporating Technology at Your Couple Shower

Alright my tech-savvy friends, let’s talk about how to incorporate the interwebs and all its wonders into your couple shower planning. Gone are the days of mailing paper invites and crossing your fingers that people RSVP – we’re living in the digital age, baby!

First up: invitations. While there’s something to be said for the tradition and elegance of a physical invite, going digital has some serious perks. For one, it’s way more budget-friendly – no more dropping dough on fancy cardstock and postage! Plus, you can include all sorts of fun stuff like links to the couple’s registry, a map to the venue, and even a cute video of the couple telling their love story.

There are tons of great websites and apps out there for creating beautiful, customizable e-vites. Some of my faves are:

• Paperless Post – They have a huge selection of designer templates and you can add cool features like RSVP tracking and guest messaging.
• Evite – Super user-friendly and has tons of free designs to choose from. You can also add polls and surveys to get guest input on things like menu options or activities.
• Greenvelope – If you’re eco-conscious, this one’s for you! They plant a tree for every invite sent and have some seriously stunning designs.
• Minted – A bit pricier, but their designs are top-notch and you can add fancy touches like envelope liners and custom stamps.

Of course, you’ll want to check with the guest of honor couple before going the e-vite route. Some folks are still attached to the idea of a physical invite, and that’s okay! You can always do a mix of both – send paper invites to the VIPs and older crowd, and e-vites to the tech-savvy youngsters.

Next up: managing RSVPs. This is where technology can really be your best friend. Instead of keeping track of a million texts, emails, and phone calls, use a digital RSVP system to keep everything in one place. Most e-vite websites have built-in RSVP tracking, or you can use a separate tool like Google Forms or RSVPify.

Just be sure to include clear instructions on how to RSVP and by when. Some guests (especially the older crowd) may not be as tech-savvy, so it’s helpful to have a phone number or email they can contact with questions. And don’t forget to follow up with any stragglers as the deadline approaches – a gentle nudge can work wonders!

Okay, let’s talk day-of technology. There are so many fun ways to incorporate tech into the actual shower! Here are a few ideas:

• Hashtag – Come up with a clever hashtag for guests to use when posting pics on social media. Something like #HappilyEverAnderson or #TomAndJerryTieTheKnot. Display it prominently at the event so guests don’t forget!
• Photo booth – Set up a DIY photo booth with props and a cute backdrop, and use a hashtag printer or digital sharing station so guests can instantly upload and share their pics.
• Spotify playlist – Create a custom playlist with the couple’s favorite jams and crowdsource song requests from guests. You can even make it collaborative so guests can add their own tunes!
• Interactive games – Use an app like Kahoot or Jackbox to play interactive trivia games about the couple. Guests can play along on their phones and compete for prizes!
• Live streaming – If some guests can’t make it in person, consider live streaming the event on Zoom or Facebook Live so they can still be part of the fun.

Of course, it’s important to find a balance between technology and good old-fashioned face-to-face interaction. You don’t want guests to be glued to their phones the whole time! Encourage them to put down the devices during key moments like speeches or gift opening, and make sure there are plenty of non-tech activities to keep them engaged.

Another thing to keep in mind: not everyone will be on the same level when it comes to technology. Some guests may be total Insta-pros, while others may barely know how to work their flip phone. Try to have options for both ends of the spectrum – maybe have a physical guest book in addition to a digital one, or print out some physical copies of the Spotify playlist for the old-school folks.

And of course, don’t forget about good old-fashioned snail mail when it comes to thank-you notes! While it’s totally fine (and efficient) to send a digital thank-you to most guests, it’s still a nice touch to hand-write notes to the VIPs or anyone who went above and beyond. It shows that you truly appreciate their effort and support.

At the end of the day, technology should be a tool to enhance the couple shower experience, not detract from it. Use it wisely and in moderation, and always prioritize the human connections and celebrations at the heart of the event.

And if all else fails, just make sure there’s plenty of outlets for people to charge their phones – because let’s be real, a dead battery is the ultimate party pooper!

Next up: we’re talking money, honey. Budgeting for a couple shower can be tricky, but I’ve got some tips and tricks to help you save some dough without sacrificing the wow factor. Meet you there!

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Budgeting for a Couple Shower

Alright, let’s talk about everyone’s favorite topic: money! Just kidding, I know budgeting is about as fun as a root canal. But trust me, having a solid financial plan is key to throwing a killer couple shower without breaking the bank.

First things first: set a budget and stick to it! I cannot stress this enough. It’s so easy to get caught up in the excitement of planning and start adding all sorts of bells and whistles – but before you know it, you’re way over budget and wondering how you’re going to afford groceries for the rest of the month.

So how do you set a realistic budget? Start by asking the couple and any co-hosts what they’re comfortable spending. If multiple people are chipping in, make sure everyone is on the same page about how much they can contribute. And don’t forget to factor in any potential contributions from the couple’s family or wedding party!

Once you have a total budget in mind, break it down into categories like:

• Venue rental (if applicable)
• Food and drinks
• Decorations
• Activities/entertainment
• Invitations and postage
• Favors
• Miscellaneous (tips, transportation, etc.)

Assign a dollar amount to each category based on your priorities and the overall vibe you’re going for. If the couple is all about the food, allocate more money to catering and less to decor. If they’re big on games and activities, bump up that budget and scale back on favors. You get the idea!

It can be helpful to make a spreadsheet with all your budget categories and estimated costs. That way you can easily track your spending and make adjustments as needed. And trust me, there will be adjustments – unexpected costs always seem to pop up at the last minute!

So how can you save money without sacrificing quality? Here are some of my favorite budget-friendly tips:

• DIY whenever possible – Making your own decorations, favors, and even food can save you a ton of cash. Plus it adds a personal touch!
• Shop sales and discount stores – Hit up places like Dollar Tree, Michaels, and Oriental Trading Company for cheap decor and supplies. And don’t be afraid to use coupons!
• Borrow or rent instead of buying – See if friends or family have any decor items or servingware you can borrow. Or rent things like tablecloths and chairs instead of purchasing them.
• Go digital with invites – As we mentioned earlier, e-vites are way cheaper than traditional paper invitations. Plus you’ll save on postage!
• Think outside the (venue) box – Instead of renting a pricey banquet hall, consider hosting the shower at someone’s home, a public park, or even a community center. Just make sure you have permission and any necessary permits!
• Keep the guest list small – More people = more mouths to feed and more favors to buy. Keeping the guest list limited to close friends and family can help you save big.
• BYOB – Providing all the alcohol for a party can get expensive fast. Consider having a BYOB policy or just providing a signature cocktail and some basic beer and wine.

Of course, the most important thing is to prioritize what matters most to the couple. If they have their heart set on a particular venue or caterer, find ways to cut costs elsewhere to make it happen. And remember, a thoughtful and love-filled celebration doesn’t have to be expensive – it’s the sentiment that counts!

One last tip: have a backup plan (and a backup budget) for unexpected expenses. Maybe the custom cake topper you ordered gets lost in the mail and you have to overnight a new one. Or the outdoor venue you booked gets rained out and you have to pivot to a pricier indoor spot. It’s always good to have a little wiggle room in your budget for these kinds of surprises.

At the end of the day, remember that a successful couple shower is about celebrating love and togetherness, not impressing people with a Pinterest-perfect party. Focus on the things that will make the couple feel special and appreciated, and don’t sweat the small stuff.

And if you do end up going over budget, just remind yourself that you can always make up for it by being a little more frugal in the coming weeks. Ramen noodles and PB&J for dinner it is!

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Post-Event Considerations for the Couple Shower

Whew, the couple shower has come and gone and it was a smashing success! The happy couple is feeling extra loved and celebrated, the guests had a blast, and you’re basking in the glow of being the hostess with the mostess. Time to put your feet up and call it a day, right?

Not so fast! Just like with a wedding, there are some important post-shower tasks that need to be taken care of to really put a bow on the whole shebang. Don’t worry though – we’ve got you covered with this handy dandy checklist!

1. 1. Send thank-you notes – This one’s a biggie. The couple should send a heartfelt thank-you note to each and every guest who attended the shower and/or gave a gift. It doesn’t have to be a novel – just a few sincere lines expressing their gratitude and how much it meant to have them there. Pro tip: divvy up the list and tackle a few notes each day so it doesn’t feel so overwhelming!
   2. Return or exchange gifts as needed – Despite everyone’s best efforts, sometimes the couple ends up with duplicate or unwanted gifts. Help them sort through everything and make a plan for returning or exchanging items as needed. Just be sure to keep track of who gave what so you can update them on any changes!
   3. Share photos and videos – Chances are, there were approximately a zillion photos and videos taken at the shower. Gather them all up from guests and compile them into a shared album or slideshow that everyone can enjoy. You can use a platform like Google Photos, Dropbox, or even a private Facebook group to make it easy for people to add their own pics and relive the fun.
   4. Preserve memories – In addition to digital photos, consider creating a physical memory book or scrapbook of the shower. Include things like the invitation, guestbook pages, polaroid pics, and any other mementos from the day. The couple will cherish having a tangible reminder of the celebration for years to come!

• Donate or repurpose decor – Don’t let all those beautiful decorations go to waste! See if the couple wants to keep any items for their home or future parties. If not, consider donating gently used items to a local charity or thrift store. You can also repurpose things like vases, signage, and linens for your own future hosting needs.
• Follow up with vendors – If you hired any vendors for the shower (caterer, photographer, florist, etc.), be sure to follow up with them post-event. Let them know how much you appreciated their services and leave positive reviews on their website or social media pages if warranted. A little vendor love can go a long way in maintaining good relationships for future events!
• Reflect and learn – Take a moment to reflect on what worked well and what could be improved for next time. Did the games fall flat? Was there way too much food? Did the venue have any logistical issues? Make some notes for yourself or chat with the other hosts to get their feedback. Every event is a learning opportunity to make the next one even better!

 

I know it can be tempting to just move on and put the shower in the rearview mirror, but trust me – taking care of these post-event tasks is worth it. It shows the couple and guests that you truly care and value their contributions. Plus, it’s just good party karma!

One more thing to keep in mind: don’t be afraid to ask for help. If the couple is swamped with wedding planning or work, offer to take on some of the thank-you note writing or gift returning. If you’re drowning in photos, deputize a few guests to help sort and upload them. Many hands make light work, as they say!

And if you’re really feeling overwhelmed, just remember – you freaking did it! You pulled off an amazing couple shower and made some beautiful memories in the process. Take a deep breath, pour yourself a glass of bubbly, and give yourself a well-deserved pat on the back.

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Common Questions About a Couple Shower

Alright, let’s dive into some of the most common questions and concerns that come up when planning a couple shower. Trust me, you’re not alone in wondering about these things – and luckily, we’ve got answers!

Is it okay to have more than one shower?

In short, yes! It’s totally fine for the couple to have multiple showers, especially if they have different groups of friends and family that wouldn’t necessarily mix well. For example, the bride might have a traditional shower with her female relatives and church friends, while the groom has a co-ed BBQ with his college buddies and work crew.

The key is to make sure the guest lists don’t overlap too much. You don’t want people to feel obligated to attend (and bring gifts to) multiple showers. One exception is the wedding party – they’ll likely be invited to all the showers and that’s okay.

Another thing to consider is the couple’s comfort level. Some people love being the center of attention and would happily have a dozen showers! Others may feel overwhelmed or greedy having more than one. Talk to the couple and see what they prefer – after all, it’s their party!

What about kids – are they invited?

This is a tricky one and really depends on the vibe of the shower and the couple’s preference. Some people love having little ones running around and think it adds to the festive family feel. Others prefer an adults-only affair where they can let loose and not worry about watching their language or content.

As a general rule, kids are usually welcome at more casual, outdoor, or family-oriented showers. Think backyard BBQs, park picnics, or winter lodge vibes. For fancier, more formal showers (like a tea party or sit-down brunch), it’s typically adults-only.

But again, defer to the couple on this one. If they have a lot of friends with kids or want their nieces and nephews there, make it happen! You can always have some kid-friendly activities or foods on hand to keep the little ones occupied.

If you do decide to invite kids, make sure to specify that on the invitation. Something like “Little ones welcome!” or “Adults only please” will get the point across. And if you’re not inviting kids, be prepared for some guests to decline because of childcare issues. It’s just part of the deal!

How do I handle guests who RSVP yes but don’t show up?

Ugh, the dreaded no-shows. It’s so frustrating to plan for a certain number of people and then have empty seats at the table. But unfortunately, it happens at pretty much every event – people get sick, have emergencies, or just flake out.

The best way to minimize no-shows is to give guests plenty of notice and reminders. Send out invitations at least a month in advance, and follow up with a reminder email or text a week or two before the event. You can even ask guests to confirm their attendance a few days prior.

If someone does RSVP yes and then doesn’t show up, try not to take it personally. Life happens and most of the time it’s not a reflection on you or the couple. If it was a close friend or family member, you can reach out after the fact to make sure everything is okay and let them know they were missed.

In the grand scheme of things, a few no-shows won’t ruin the shower. Focus on the people who did attend and make it a great time for them. And look at the bright side – more leftovers for you!

What if someone brings a gift but doesn’t attend?

This is actually quite common and totally fine! Some people may have a conflict and not be able to attend the shower, but still want to show their love and support for the couple. Sending a gift is a nice way to do that.

If someone sends a gift but doesn’t come to the shower, make sure to acknowledge it in some way. You can set the gift aside with a little note that says who it’s from, or even snap a pic of the couple opening it and send it to the giver with a thank-you text.

After the shower, the couple should still send a formal thank-you note to anyone who gave a gift, whether they attended or not. A simple “Thank you so much for the generous gift – we can’t wait to use it in our new home together!” will do the trick.

How do I deal with guests who don’t RSVP at all?

Ah, the dreaded non-responders. It’s so frustrating to send out invitations and then hear crickets back. But again, this is a common problem and there are ways to deal with it!

First and foremost, make sure your RSVP date is clear on the invitation. Give guests a deadline to respond by, usually 2-3 weeks before the event. You can even include a little note that says something like “Please RSVP by [date] so we can plan accordingly.”

If the RSVP date comes and goes and you still haven’t heard from some guests, it’s time to follow up. A quick phone call, text, or email saying something like “Hey there! Just wanted to check in and see if you’re able to make it to [couple’s] shower on [date]. We’d love to have you there but understand if you can’t make it. Just let me know either way!” is totally appropriate.

If you still don’t hear back after a follow-up or two, it’s safe to assume they’re not coming. Plan accordingly with your food, seating, and favors. And don’t take it personally – some people just aren’t great at responding to invitations.

At the end of the day, focus on the guests who do RSVP and show up to celebrate the happy couple. Those are the people who matter most!

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Personalizing the Couple Shower

Okay, let’s be real – anyone can throw a generic couple shower with some balloons, finger sandwiches, and a few games. But if you want to really wow the guests of honor and create a memorable experience, it’s all about the personal touches!

Personalizing the shower shows that you put thought and effort into celebrating the couple’s unique love story. It’s a way to make them feel extra special and appreciated on their big day. And trust me, those little details may seem small, but they add up to make a big impact!

Here are some ideas for personalizing the couple shower:

Incorporate Their Love Story

• Love Story Timeline – Create a visual timeline of the couple’s relationship, from when they first met to the present day. Include photos, inside jokes, and milestones along the way. Display it at the shower for guests to enjoy!
• Trivia Game – Put together a trivia game all about the couple’s relationship. Questions could be things like “Where was their first date?” or “What’s their favorite couples activity?” Guests will love testing their knowledge and learning more about the couple’s story.
• Signature Cocktail – Come up with a signature cocktail that represents the couple’s personalities or favorite drinks. Give it a cute couple-y name like “The Swoon” or “Love Potion #9.” Bonus points if you can tie it into their love story somehow – like the drink they had on their first date!

Highlight Their Interests

• Theme It Up – Choose a shower theme that reflects the couple’s hobbies or interests. Are they big travelers? Throw a globetrotting-themed shower with maps, postcards, and foods from their favorite destinations. Music lovers? Host a festival-themed party with live tunes, flower crowns, and boho decor.
• Activity Stations – Set up activity stations based on the couple’s favorite things to do together. If they love to cook, have a recipe swap or cooking demo. Gamers? Organize a couple’s trivia competition or retro video game setup. Art buffs? Do a group painting class or craft project.
• Favors and Gifts – Choose favors and gifts that align with the couple’s interests. For a foodie couple, send guests home with a mini cookbook or custom spice blend. Travel enthusiasts? Luggage tags or passport covers are perfect. You get the idea – think about what the couple loves and go from there!

Get Guests Involved

• Guest Book Prompts – Instead of a traditional guest book, set up prompts for guests to share their well wishes and advice. Some ideas: “What’s your favorite memory of the couple?” or “What’s one piece of marriage advice you’d give them?” The couple will love reading through the responses after the shower.
• Group Gift – Coordinate a group gift that guests can contribute to. Maybe it’s a honeymoon fund, a down payment on a house, or a big-ticket item like a fancy appliance. Guests will feel more invested in the couple’s future and the couple will appreciate the collective generosity.
• DIY Stations – Set up DIY stations where guests can create something special for the couple. It could be decorating a wooden initial, writing notes of advice, or contributing to a scrapbook or recipe box. Not only does it keep guests engaged, but it also results in some meaningful keepsakes for the couple.

Make it a Moment

• Sentimental Speeches – Ask a few close friends or family members to give a short speech or toast in honor of the couple. They can share funny stories, heartfelt memories, or words of wisdom for the newlyweds-to-be. Just make sure to give them a heads up in advance so they can prepare!
• Gift Opening – Make gift opening a moment to remember by having the couple sit in a special spot, like a loveseat or decorated chairs. As they open each gift, have them read the card aloud and share a memory or story related to the giver. It’s a sweet way to involve everyone and make them feel appreciated.
• Grand Finale – End the shower with a bang by orchestrating a special moment for the couple. It could be a balloon drop, confetti toss, sparkler send-off – anything to make them feel extra celebrated and loved. You could even have guests form a heart shape around them for a cute photo op!

Remember, the goal is to make the couple feel like the shower was truly tailored to them and their relationship. It doesn’t have to be over-the-top or expensive – sometimes the most meaningful touches are the simplest ones.

One more tip: if you’re feeling stuck or uninspired, crowdsource ideas from the couple’s friends and family. They’ll likely have some great insights and stories to share that you can incorporate into the celebration.

At the end of the day, a personalized couple shower is a gift in itself. It shows the couple how much they are loved and supported by their nearest and dearest. And that’s what it’s all about!

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Learnings Recap

Phew, we covered a lot of ground in this ultimate guide to throwing a couple shower! Let’s recap some of the key points to keep in mind:

• Start with the couple – Talk to the guests of honor and get a feel for their vision, preferences, and non-negotiables. Use that as your guiding light throughout the planning process.
• Choose a theme – A cohesive theme will help guide your decisions on decor, food, activities, and more. Brainstorm ideas that reflect the couple’s interests and personalities.
• Set a budget and stick to it – Determine how much you’re willing to spend and allocate funds accordingly. Look for ways to save without sacrificing quality, like DIYing decor or opting for digital invites.
• Get organized – Make a master checklist with deadlines to keep yourself on track. Delegate tasks to other hosts or helpers as needed. Don’t be afraid to ask for help!
• Think about the guest experience – From the invitations to the favors, consider how you can make guests feel welcome and engaged. Icebreakers, interactive activities, and personal touches go a long way.
• Have a backup plan – Hope for the best, but prepare for the worst. Have contingency plans in place for inclement weather, last-minute cancellations, or other unexpected hiccups.
• Remember what matters most – At the end of the day, the couple shower is about celebrating love and togetherness. Don’t get so caught up in the details that you forget to enjoy the moment!

I hope this guide has given you the tools, tips, and inspiration you need to plan an unforgettable couple shower. It’s a big undertaking, but also a huge honor and opportunity to show the happy couple how much they mean to you.

If you’re feeling overwhelmed or unsure where to start, just remember to take it one step at a time. Break it down into manageable tasks and don ‘t be afraid to lean on your co-hosts, friends, and family for support.

And if something doesn’t go exactly as planned? Take a deep breath and roll with it. Some of the best moments and memories come from the unexpected. Plus, you can always file it away as a funny story to tell at the wedding!

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Final Thoughts

Whew, we made it to the end! I hope you’re feeling excited, inspired, and ready to throw the best darn couple shower this side of the Mississippi. Or whichever side you happen to be on.

As we wrap things up, I want to leave you with a few final nuggets of wisdom:

• Have fun with it! Yes, party planning can be stressful at times. But it’s also an opportunity to get creative, flex your hosting skills, and make some amazing memories with the people you love. Embrace the chaos and enjoy the ride!
• Don’t compare yourself to others. It’s easy to get caught up in the Pinterest-perfect, Instagram-worthy pressure of modern-day celebrations. But at the end of the day, your couple shower doesn’t have to look like anyone else’s. Focus on what feels authentic and meaningful to you and the couple, and tune out the rest.
• Remember the power of presence. When the big day arrives, it can be tempting to get caught up in the last-minute details and hosting duties. But don’t forget to take a step back and soak in the moment. Be fully present with the couple, the guests, and the love and joy in the room. That’s what it’s all about!

And finally, give yourself a pat on the back. Throwing a couple shower is no small feat, and you’re rocking it! Your hard work, creativity, and thoughtfulness will shine through in every detail. The couple is so lucky to have you in their corner.

So take a bow, raise a glass, and get ready to celebrate love in all its forms. Cheers to you, you fabulous party planner, you! May your couple shower be a smashing success and a cherished memory for years to come.

And if you ever need a little extra support or guidance along the way? Bridesmaid for Hire has got your back. From planning tips to day-of coordination, we’re here to help you navigate the wild and wonderful world of wedding celebrations. Because everyone deserves a fairy godmother (or fairy bridesmaid) on their special day!

So go forth and shower that happy couple with all the love, laughter, and joy their hearts can hold. You’ve got this! And we’ll be here cheering you on every step of the way.

Happy planning, my friend! May your couple shower be a splash hit and your love cup runneth over.