25 Unforgettable Bachelorette Party Venues and Activities on Long Island: The Ultimate Guide

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Planning a bachelorette party on Long Island offers endless possibilities from vineyard tours to beach adventures. According to a recent survey by The Knot, destination bachelorette parties have increased by 73% since 2019, with Long Island ranking among the top 10 East Coast locations. I recently helped coordinate my best friend’s celebration in Montauk—navigating transportation logistics while juggling different budgets was challenging, but seeing her face light up during our sunset sail made it all worthwhile. This comprehensive guide covers everything you need to know about creating the perfect Long Island bachelorette experience.

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Essential Planning Considerations for Your Long Island Celebration

Before diving into specific venues and activities, you’ll need to address several key planning factors. Long Island stretches 118 miles with distinct regions, each offering unique experiences depending on the season. Your budget will significantly impact your options, with venues ranging from affordable to ultra-luxurious. Group size affects where you can go and what you can do, while transportation between locations requires careful coordination.

Long Island’s geography creates distinct microclimates and experiences across the North Shore (Gold Coast mansions, harbor towns), South Shore (beaches, barrier islands), and East End (Hamptons, North Fork wine country)—each requiring different transportation strategies and seasonal planning.

Reservation lead times vary dramatically by season. Summer venues in the Hamptons often require 3-6 months advance booking, while off-season (October-April) may allow for 2-4 weeks notice with potential cost savings of 15-30%. If you’re struggling to coordinate your group’s preferences, check out our guide on how to deal with an unruly wedding party to ensure everyone has a great time without conflict.

For my sister’s bachelorette weekend last June, we planned a 3-day itinerary balancing activities across Long Island. We stayed at a mid-range hotel in Riverhead (central location) which served as our home base. This strategic location allowed us to spend Friday exploring North Fork wineries, Saturday at a Hamptons beach club, and Sunday at a spa in Port Jefferson before departure. By choosing accommodations midway between attractions, we minimized daily travel time and saved nearly $300 per person compared to Hamptons lodging prices.

Region	Best For	Peak Season	Budget Range
North Shore	Gold Coast mansions, harbor towns	May-October	$-$$
South Shore	Beaches, barrier islands	June-September	$-$$
East End	Hamptons luxury, wine country	Memorial Day-Labor Day	$$-$$$
Central LI	Affordable activities, accessibility	Year-round	$-$$

Wine and Brewery Tours: Sip and Celebrate

1. North Fork Wine Trail Tour

The North Fork Wine Trail offers a guided experience through 3-4 distinctive wineries with transportation included. You’ll enjoy curated tastings at each stop and a gourmet lunch amid picturesque vineyard settings. This option works particularly well for wine enthusiasts and provides beautiful seasonal backdrops for photos and memories.

Most tour operators offer tiered packages ranging from standard ($125-150/person) to premium ($175-225/person), with the latter including reserve tastings, behind-the-scenes vineyard access, and upgraded meal options.

The optimal booking window is 8-12 weeks in advance, with Saturday tours typically selling out first. Weekday tours offer more intimate experiences with 30-40% fewer visitors at most vineyards. For some creative ideas on how to make your wine tour extra special, check out our article on ways to personalize your wedding celebrations that can easily be adapted for bachelorette parties.

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2. Sparkling Pointe Vineyard

Sparkling Pointe stands out as Long Island’s premier sparkling wine producer, featuring an elegant tasting room and stunning outdoor patio overlooking meticulously maintained vineyards. The upscale atmosphere creates a perfect backdrop for celebration photos, and they offer specialized VIP experiences designed specifically for bachelorette parties.

Their “Celebration Package” ($85-110/person) includes reserved seating, guided tasting of 5 méthode champenoise sparkling wines, artisanal cheese board, and a special toast for the bride-to-be. The vineyard’s Tasting House architecture combines Brazilian and French influences, creating distinctive photo opportunities not found at other Long Island wineries.

3. Long Island Brewery Tour

Long Island craft beer enthusiasts will appreciate visiting multiple breweries like Blue Point, Great South Bay, and Sand City. The atmosphere tends to be more casual and laid-back than wineries, making it perfect for groups seeking fun without pretense. Many breweries have developed specific bachelorette packages that include tours, tastings, and sometimes exclusive access to brewing areas.

Most brewery tours operate on a “beer flight” system offering 4-6 4oz pours at each location, with transportation packages typically covering 3-4 breweries in a 4-5 hour window.

Self-guided tours using services like Brew Crew Cycles (pedal-powered group cycling between breweries) offer interactive experiences at $45-65/person compared to traditional van tours at $85-125/person.

4. Wölffer Estate Vineyard

This elegant Hamptons winery has gained fame for its rosé and summer sunset events featuring live music. The Instagram-worthy setting provides a sophisticated backdrop for celebration photos. While it commands a higher price point, the exceptional ambiance and seasonal events create memorable experiences worth the investment.

Wölffer’s “Summer in a Bottle” rosé has become a social media phenomenon, with their Sunset Fridays and Saturdays events featuring live music selling out weeks in advance during peak season (June-September).

Their private tasting experiences ($75-150/person) can be enhanced with vineyard tours, barrel room access, and customized food pairings from local Hamptons chefs.

5. Pindar Vineyards

As one of Long Island’s largest wineries, Pindar accommodates bigger groups with ease. Their more affordable pricing and casual atmosphere make this an accessible option for varied budgets. Bachelorette packages include reserved seating areas and customized tasting flights, creating a welcoming environment for celebration.

Pindar produces over 70,000 cases annually across 23 varietals, allowing for the most diverse tasting options on Long Island with flights customizable by preference (sweet, dry, red, white).

Their pavilion space accommodates groups up to 30 people with advance reservation, offering semi-private experiences at $35-50/person compared to fully private options at smaller vineyards costing $65-100/person.

Beach and Water Activities: Coastal Celebrations

6. Hamptons Beach Day with Private Cabana

Elevate your beach experience by reserving a private cabana at a Hamptons beach club. You’ll enjoy dedicated food and beverage service while relaxing in comfort. This option balances relaxation with socializing opportunities and creates a luxurious home base for your celebration, though it’s primarily available during summer months.

Beach clubs like Gurney’s Montauk and Southampton Beach Club offer tiered cabana options ranging from standard ($350-500/day) to premium ($750-1,200/day), with the latter including dedicated servers, champagne service, and expanded food menus.

Most cabanas accommodate 6-8 guests comfortably, with larger party packages available that include multiple adjacent cabanas and connecting lounge areas.

7. Montauk Yacht Charter

For the ultimate luxury experience, charter a private yacht from Montauk Harbor. Spend a half or full day sailing, swimming, and sunbathing with your closest friends. While this option represents a significant investment, it delivers unparalleled privacy and creates a truly exclusive celebration environment.

Charter pricing varies dramatically based on vessel size, with 40-45 foot boats (6-8 guests) starting around $1,500-2,500 for half-day excursions and 55-65 foot yachts (10-12 guests) ranging from $3,500-5,000 for full-day experiences.

Most charters include a captain and deckhand, with additional services like onboard catering, bar service, and photography available as add-ons ($75-150/hour for bartenders, $350-500 for professional photography packages).

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8. Fire Island Day Trip

Experience the unique car-free atmosphere of Fire Island with a day trip to communities like Ocean Beach or Cherry Grove. The ferry ride adds a fun transit element, and once there, you can enjoy beaches, dining, and the distinctive island vibe. This option works well for various budgets and offers both relaxation and nightlife opportunities.

Ferry schedules intensify during peak season (Memorial Day through Labor Day) with departures every 30-60 minutes from Bay Shore, Sayville, and Patchogue terminals; off-season schedules reduce to 2-4 daily departures.

The communities of Fire Island vary significantly in atmosphere: Ocean Beach and Kismet offer family-friendly environments with diverse dining, while Cherry Grove and The Pines are known for LGBTQ+-friendly nightlife and entertainment. Looking for more affordable options? Our article on bridesmaid on a budget includes tips that can help you plan economical bachelorette activities that don’t sacrifice the fun factor.

Fire Island Community	Known For	Vibe	Best Activities
Ocean Beach	Dining variety, family-friendly	Relaxed, social	Restaurants, shopping, beaches
Cherry Grove	LGBTQ+ scene, nightlife	Vibrant, inclusive	Dancing, drag shows, beach parties
Kismet	Low-key atmosphere, younger crowd	Casual, friendly	Beach lounging, casual bars
The Pines	Upscale scene, architecture	Sophisticated, exclusive	House parties, Tea Dance, beaches
Davis Park	Quieter experience, nature	Peaceful, remote	Nature walks, secluded beaches

9. Paddleboard or Kayak Adventure in Cold Spring Harbor

Active groups will enjoy a guided paddleboard or kayak tour through scenic Cold Spring Harbor. Equipment rental comes included, making this a hassle-free option. The affordable price point ($50-75 per person) delivers great value, and the physical activity creates shared experiences and beautiful photo opportunities.

Most tour operators offer 2-hour guided experiences covering approximately 2-3 miles of coastline, with instruction suitable for beginners included in the base price.

Early morning (7-9am) tours provide the calmest water conditions and best wildlife viewing opportunities, while sunset tours (5-7pm in summer) offer dramatic lighting for photos but require slightly more paddling experience.

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10. Sunset Sailing in Port Jefferson

Cap off your celebration day with an evening sailing cruise featuring champagne and appetizers while watching the sunset over Long Island Sound. The romantic atmosphere creates perfect memory-making moments, and the moderate pricing makes this accessible for most groups.

Most sunset cruises operate on 36-45 foot sailboats accommodating 6-12 passengers, with semi-private options (joining other small groups) available at $75-95/person and fully private charters at $125-175/person.

The optimal sailing window shifts seasonally: May-June and September-October cruises typically depart 6:30-7:00pm, while peak summer (July-August) departures move to 7:30-8:00pm for ideal sunset viewing.

Spa and Wellness Retreats: Relaxation and Rejuvenation

11. Gurney’s Montauk Resort & Seawater Spa

This luxury oceanfront resort offers comprehensive spa packages alongside private beach access and multiple dining venues. The recently renovated seawater spa features unique treatments utilizing ocean elements. While representing a premium price point, the all-weather facility ensures your celebration proceeds regardless of conditions outside.

The spa’s signature feature is North America’s only ocean-fed seawater pool, maintained at optimal temperatures year-round with mineral content matching the Atlantic Ocean.

Bachelorette packages include options for private use of the Finnish-style sauna and Russian steam room, with customized treatment sequences available for groups of 4-8 ($250-400/person depending on selected services).

12. Oheka Castle Spa Day

Experience spa treatments in a historic castle setting surrounded by formal gardens and elegant architecture. This unique venue creates unforgettable photo backgrounds while delivering premium services. The private treatment rooms designed for bridal parties allow your group to maintain connection throughout the experience.

As a historic property featured in numerous films and television shows, Oheka offers distinctive architectural backdrops spanning French chateau and Italian Renaissance influences across its 23-acre manicured estate.

Their bridal party spa packages include exclusive use of the West Wing preparation rooms originally designed for Gatsby-era socialites, with services ranging from standard massage and facial combinations ($225-275/person) to comprehensive pre-wedding treatments ($350-450/person).

13. The Spa at East Wind Long Island

This full-service spa specializes in bridal party packages with on-site restaurant and hotel accommodations. The mid-range pricing makes this accessible for varied budgets, and the facility easily accommodates larger groups. Their year-round availability ensures flexibility in planning regardless of season.

Their “Celebration Package” includes a 50-minute treatment of choice, champagne lunch, and full-day access to hydrotherapy facilities at $175-225/person, with discounted room blocks available when booking 5+ spa services.

The 10,000-square-foot facility features separate relaxation lounges that can be reserved for private group use, allowing for gift exchanges and pre/post-treatment socializing without other guests.

For a recent winter bachelorette celebration, we booked The Spa at East Wind’s “Bridal Bliss Package” for our party of seven. The package included a welcome champagne toast, 50-minute Swedish massages, express facials, and manicures for everyone. We reserved their private relaxation lounge for two hours after treatments where we enjoyed a catered lunch and presented gifts to the bride. The all-inclusive pricing ($225/person) eliminated the stress of separate payments, and the heated indoor pool provided a perfect gathering spot between treatments. The staff even coordinated surprise champagne delivery from the groom during our lunch!

14. Lavender By the Bay Wellness Day

Combine a visit to Long Island’s famous lavender farm with themed spa treatments at a nearby wellness center. This unique sensory experience creates distinctive memories and beautiful photo opportunities. The seasonal nature (peak bloom in June/July) requires careful timing, but delivers an experience unlike any other on Long Island.

The farm cultivates both English and French lavender varieties, creating two distinct bloom periods: English peaks mid-June to early July, while French varieties reach maximum bloom mid-July through early August.

Partner wellness centers offer treatments utilizing farm-fresh lavender, with packages including farm tour, lavender harvesting activity, and treatments (massage, facial, or body scrub) ranging from $150-225/person depending on treatment duration.

15. Yoga and Mimosas on the Beach

Start your celebration day with a private beach yoga session followed by mimosa brunch at a waterfront restaurant. This affordable option ($40-75 per person) accommodates various fitness levels and creates a healthy balance to other celebration activities. The early morning timing leaves the rest of your day open for additional experiences.

Most instructors offer customizable difficulty levels, with gentle flow sequences appropriate for beginners alongside optional advanced variations for experienced practitioners.

Beach permits are typically handled by the yoga provider, with most sessions scheduled for 8-9:30am to avoid peak sun exposure and beach crowds, followed by brunch reservations at 10-10:30am at partner restaurants.

Food and Dining Experiences: Culinary Adventures

16. North Fork Farm-to-Table Tour and Cooking Class

This interactive experience begins with visiting local farms to select fresh ingredients, followed by a private cooking class with a professional chef. You’ll then enjoy dining on your creations together. The educational component adds depth to the experience, and the ability to accommodate dietary restrictions ensures everyone can participate fully.

Most programs follow seasonal availability, with spring featuring asparagus and strawberries, summer highlighting heirloom tomatoes and sweet corn, and fall showcasing squash varieties and apples—creating distinctly different experiences throughout the year.

Classes typically run 3-4 hours including farm visits, with instruction covering 3-5 techniques and producing a complete meal with wine pairings at $150-200/person for groups of 6-12.

17. Hamptons Restaurant Hopping Tour

Experience multiple upscale Hamptons restaurants in one evening with a guided tour featuring signature dishes and drinks at each location. This progressive dining experience allows you to sample the best of Hamptons cuisine without committing to a single venue. Transportation between restaurants is included, eliminating logistics concerns.

Most tours include 3-4 venues over 4-5 hours, with each restaurant presenting 2-3 signature items paired with specific wines or cocktails, typically covering appetizers through dessert across the different locations.

Private transportation options range from standard shuttle vans to luxury vehicles, with premium packages ($250-350/person) including champagne service between venues and priority seating at each restaurant.

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18. Private Clambake on the Beach

Experience a traditional Long Island clambake with lobster, clams, corn, and potatoes prepared right on the beach by private chefs. This authentic local tradition creates a memorable dining experience unique to the region. While weather-dependent, the seasonal availability (summer/early fall) coincides with peak bachelorette season.

Traditional preparation involves cooking in a pit lined with seaweed and heated stones, though modern services often use specialized equipment that maintains the traditional flavors while meeting beach permit requirements.

Most packages include setup, preparation, service, and cleanup with pricing at $125-175/person for standard menus and $200-250/person for premium options including raw bar, additional seafood varieties, and expanded beverage service. If you’re planning multiple events for the bride-to-be, our article on how to be a better bridesmaid offers great advice for managing both pre-wedding events and day-of responsibilities.

19. Wine Pairing Dinner at Bedell Cellars

Enjoy a multi-course private dinner with expertly paired wines in a beautiful vineyard setting. The elegant experience creates a sophisticated celebration atmosphere, and indoor options provide weather backup. The picturesque setting delivers stunning photo opportunities to capture your special gathering.

Bedell’s Corey Creek Tap Room specializes in small-batch wines not available for retail distribution, with pairing dinners featuring exclusive vertical tastings (same wine across multiple vintages) or horizontal tastings (different vineyard blocks from the same vintage).

Private dining experiences require minimum groups of 8-10 people with pricing at $150-200/person for standard pairings and $225-275/person for reserve wine selections, with custom menu development available working directly with their executive chef.

20. Greenport Food and History Walking Tour

Combine culinary experiences with local history through a guided walking tour of charming Greenport village. You’ll stop at multiple eateries, bakeries, and specialty food shops while learning about this historic maritime community. The walkable format creates natural conversation opportunities, and the year-round availability offers planning flexibility.

Tours typically cover 1-1.5 miles over 3 hours, visiting 5-7 establishments with tastings representing Greenport’s maritime heritage through seafood, international influences, and local agricultural products.

Standard tours operate at $75-90/person with premium options ($100-125/person) including additional stops, alcoholic beverage pairings, and take-home local products from village shops.

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Entertainment and Nightlife: Evening Celebrations

21. The Hamptons Club Crawl

Experience VIP access to multiple Hamptons nightclubs and lounges with reserved tables and bottle service. This high-energy option delivers a premium nightlife experience with transportation between venues included. While representing a higher price point, the exclusive access creates a celebration atmosphere fitting for special occasions.

Most packages include expedited entry at 3-4 venues, dedicated VIP host throughout the evening, and transportation between locations, with pricing starting at $150-200/person for basic packages and $300-400/person for premium experiences.

Seasonal considerations significantly impact availability, with most clubs operating Thursday-Sunday from Memorial Day through Labor Day, but limited to Friday-Saturday or closed entirely during off-season months.

Nightlife Activity	Cost Range	Group Size	Best Season	Planning Lead Time
Hamptons Club Crawl	$150-400/person	6-15	Memorial Day-Labor Day	4-8 weeks
Beach House Party	$100-250/person	10-25	June-September	6-12 weeks
Comedy Show	$35-75/person	Any	Year-round	2-4 weeks
Dance Cruise	$75-150/person	10+	May-October	3-6 weeks
Private Karaoke	$50-150/hour + F&B	6-20	Year-round	1-3 weeks

22. Private Party at Montauk Beach House

Reserve a cabana or private area at this trendy hotel featuring pool access, DJ entertainment, and customized food and drink packages. The versatile venue works for both day and evening celebrations, accommodating larger groups with ease. The combination of poolside relaxation and nightlife energy creates a comprehensive celebration environment.

Daytime pool packages include reserved seating for 6-10 guests with minimum food and beverage spends ranging from $1,000-2,500 depending on day of week and season.

Evening buyout options for semi-private areas accommodate 15-25 guests with dedicated server staff, customizable lighting schemes, and sound system access for personal playlists or their resident DJs.

Last summer, we celebrated my cousin’s bachelorette at Montauk Beach House with their “Sunset to Starlight” package. We arrived at 4pm and had a reserved poolside cabana area for our group of 12, complete with a dedicated server and custom welcome cocktails featuring the bride’s favorite spirits. As sunset approached, staff seamlessly transitioned our area with additional lounge furniture, enhanced lighting, and a champagne tower setup. The venue coordinator had pre-arranged for our Spotify playlist to integrate with their sound system during dinner, before their resident DJ took over at 9pm. The package included a $1,500 food and beverage minimum, which we easily met with shared plates and cocktails, making the per-person cost around $225 including gratuity.

23. Comedy Show and Dinner at The Paramount in Huntington

Begin with dinner at a nearby restaurant followed by tickets to a comedy show at this popular venue. This entertainment option works well for mixed-age groups and provides a structured evening activity. The central location in Huntington offers numerous options for after-show drinks within walking distance.

The Paramount hosts nationally touring comedians primarily on Thursday-Saturday evenings, with tickets ranging from $35-75/person depending on performer and seating section.

Group packages (10+ tickets) include reserved seating blocks, optional pre-show reception in private areas, and discounted pricing of approximately 10-15% compared to individual ticket purchases.

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24. Dance Party Cruise from Freeport

Board an evening cruise with DJ entertainment, dancing, and open bar departing from the Nautical Mile in Freeport. This unique venue combines scenic views with party atmosphere, creating memorable celebration moments. The all-inclusive pricing ($75-125 per person) delivers good value for the comprehensive experience.

Most cruises operate on 3-4 hour schedules departing between 7-8pm, with vessels accommodating 50-150 passengers and private or semi-private areas available for groups of 10-25 people.

Standard packages include open bar with beer, wine and well drinks, while premium options ($100-150/person) upgrade to top-shelf spirits, champagne toast, and expanded food offerings beyond basic appetizers.

25. Private Karaoke Room at The Grange in Garden City

Reserve a private karaoke room with food and drink service for an evening of singing and celebration. This affordable, weather-proof option creates interactive entertainment that encourages participation from all guests. The casual atmosphere removes performance pressure while creating memorable shared experiences.

Private rooms accommodate groups of 6-20 people with hourly rates ranging from $50-150/hour depending on room size and day of week, with food and beverage minimums typically starting at $25-40/person.

Their digital song library includes over 25,000 titles across multiple languages and decades, with custom playlists creatable in advance for the bride’s favorite songs or themed music selections. Looking for more fun group activities? Check out our article on 6 ways to keep guests entertained on your wedding weekend for ideas that can easily be adapted for bachelorette celebrations.

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Final Thoughts

Creating the perfect Long Island bachelorette party requires balancing the bride’s preferences with practical logistics. Whether you choose vineyard tours in North Fork, beach adventures in the Hamptons, or spa retreats across the island, the key is thoughtful planning and coordination. Consider mixing activities across categories to create a well-rounded experience that accommodates different interests and energy levels. With proper preparation—and perhaps some professional assistance—your Long Island bachelorette celebration will create lasting memories for everyone involved.

The optimal planning timeline begins 4-6 months before the event date, with venue reservations secured 3-4 months in advance and final details confirmed 2-3 weeks prior.

Weather contingency planning is essential, with indoor backup options identified for each outdoor activity and flexible cancellation policies verified with all vendors (particularly important during hurricane season from June through November).