Virtual Bridesmaid & Wedding

A complete guide for anyone who wants to become a virtual bridesmaid or wants to have a virtual wedding.

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Have you ever wanted to become a virtual bridesmaid?

The truth is not everybody has close friends or even someone to turn to when they are in the process of getting married. That's why some people decide to hire virtual bridesmaids.

A virtual bridesmaid is there to support the person getting married with all of their pop-up challenges. While a virtual bridesmaid isn't a wedding planner, it's a true support system and virtual best friend you can dial up for vent-sessions, unbiased advice, and life strategies to help you with your wedding. 

If you want to become a virtual bridesmaid, first you need to understand what the role involves. A virtual bridesmaid is someone who knows how to deal with stress and problems surrounding a wedding. In the role, you will help the person getting married with pop-up tasks and handling awkward situations or conversations in their life. Unlike an In-person hired Bridesmaid, this role is done via phone and is remote. 

The virtual bridesmaid job isn't an easy one. You'll act as a personal assistant, social director, on-call therapist, and peacekeeper for the person getting married. You'll want to be an all-star communicator, good at problem-solving, and super solution-oriented. While some virtual bridesmaids chat with clients via text or email, most have conversations with clients on the phone. As a virtual bridesmaid, you'll be the person's go-to support system and might even chat with your client multiple times a week.

If you want to become a virtual bridesmaid, there are a few ways you can do that. First, learn how to start your own business in the wedding space so that you can carve a foundation to launch this role and business. Next, you'll want to start marketing your services in the wedding industry. It's also good to have a niche - a specific audience that you want to work with - so that you're virtual bridesmaid can stand-out. 


  • Help with pre-wedding tasks and timelines 
  • Create a strategy to handle personalities and tough family dynamics for the person getting married 
  • Provide vent sessions so the client has a safe and unbiased space to unload all that they are experiencing 
  • Offer suggestions and advice to help navigate situations that pop-up before the wedding adventure 
  • Give the client actionable solutions to handle challenges that they are experiencing 
  • Be available for weekly or daily phone calls, emails, or texts from the client
  • Help with sourcing dresses and bachelorette party plans for the client and the bridal party 


Become a virtual bridesmaid

An incredible virtual wedding experience that guests will enjoy.

Virtual weddings had a big moment in 2020. When the pandemic paused a lot of people's wedding plans, they turned online instead. Some people live streamed their wedding ceremony with friends and family members. Other people had an entire celebration take place in their home, with a few close friends and family there IRL, and the rest of the people in their lives watching at home on a screen.

Since then, more and more couples have incorporated a virtual component into their wedding celebration. Even as weddings have mostly gone back to in-person venues, some couples will decide to livestream parts of their big day for guests who can't come, live too far away, or have to stay away from larger groups because of personal or medical reasons.

As you gear up to plan your wedding, decide if you want to incorporate a virtual element into your wedding.

Here are some ideas for you.

Elope at your favorite spot or a place that's meaningful to you and your partner. Invite a handful of people or keep it small. Bring a laptop or use your phone, pick a streaming platform (like Zoom or Google Meet) and invite other people you adore to watch it all take place. Let's say you always wanted to exchange vows and say I Do on a beach in Australia. With a mostly virtual wedding, you can make the trip there and invite anyone you'd like to watch from the comfort of their home.

Another option you can go with is to have a wedding at your favorite venue and invite an entire guest list of people to come celebrate with you. If you start to notice a chunk of people you love and care about unable to come to your in-person wedding, you might want to decide to livestream it so they can celebrate with you from home. Speak to your videographer or photographer to see if you can tap into their equiptment to make it all flow seamlessly.

No matter what you decide, having a virtual element to a wedding is a trend that isn't going away any time soon. 


  • Decide on a date and time for the virtual wedding 
  • Pick a streaming platform
  • Hire your virtual marriage officiant 
  • Select your wedding day wardrobe 
  • Set up lighting and background 
  • Do a rest of audio and video
  • Don't forget the marriage license 
  • Send out invites to your guests with details 
  • Give guests detailed instructions
  • Write your vows that you want to share 
  • Create a timeline for the wedding
  • Hire any extra vendors 
  • Create a signature cocktail people can make at home 
  • Consider making it interactive with games or entertainers 


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