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Valentine’s Day is known to be a time when we celebrate the love we have in our lives, sometimes that love is romantic and sometimes that love is for the people who keep us strong, level-headed, and laughing through life – our dear friends, and potentially the people we want to be our bridesmaids.   If you’re freshly engaged and looking forward to using the Valentine’s Day holiday as a time when you ask your closest gal pals to be members of your wedding squad, AKA bridal party, here are four cute ways to ask your friends to be your bridesmaids on V-Day.  
  1. Send Them a Singing Telegram
Hire a singing telegram, whether it’s a local Acapela group or a person who specializes in telegrams, to deliver the message to your bridesmaid. Pick their favorite song and customize the words so that every single bridesmaid gets asked in a different and very fun way.  
  1. Say it With Candy
Since candy is the key to a lot of people’s hearts on Valentine’s day, spell out “will you be my bridesmaid” with candy hearts in their apartment or buy a bucket of their favorite candy and put a note at the very bottom of it, so they can find it as they are giving in to their sweet tooth.  
  1. Throw a Valentine’s Day Party
Even though you have your fiancé to spend Valentine’s Day with, one of the things you can do is throw a friend party where you bring all your bridesmaids together and ask them all together at this party.  
  1. Use Cupid as Your Delivery Man
Ask one of your guy friends to dress up like cupid and have them go over to each bridesmaid and give them the message in that fun cute way. If your bridesmaids live far away, one thing you can do to make them feel special and included is send them a video where you have cupid asking them the question and then you pop up in the video and ask them yourself with a personal message.

One of the biggest challenges when planning a destination wedding is making sure that your guests feel as though they aren’t spending a ton of money to make it to your special day. A group of people you might be particularly nervous about is your bridal party, since they may already be spending a chunk of money on your pre-wedding adventures, like the bridal shower, bachelorette parties, and even the dress you’d like them to wear on the big day.   If you’re looking for ways to save your bridesmaids money as they begin to plan and pay their way to your destination wedding, here are four ways to do that.  
  1. Pay for Their Hotel Room
If you have it in your budget to pay for a couple of hotel rooms for your bridal party, that will save them quite a lot of money for the weekend that they are with you for your wedding. If that’s not possible, see if you can have all the bridesmaids stay in the bridal suite with you the next before the wedding. It’ll save them a couple of hundred dollars and It’ll be a great way for you to spend your last night before you’re married.  
  1. Set Travel Alerts
Keep an eye out for good travel deals, especially around the holidays, to share with your bridal party. Since they might be just checking on their favorite travel deal sites only, having you also help them search and save will be a big bonus.  
  1. Treat Them to a Local Service
One fun way of saying thank you to your bridal party for traveling to your wedding is by taking them out to experience a local service, whether it’s a delicious meal or an afternoon at the spa. It’s a great way to stop them from spending their own cash while they are trying to sightsee.  
  1. Go Easy on the Dress
Since they are coming quite a long way to be there for your wedding day, go easy on the bridesmaid dress you pick out for them. Find a dress at a reasonable price, or scrap the idea of matching dresses all together and instead, let them pick out their own dress of choice.   Jen Glantz is the world’s first professional bridesmaid and founder of Bridesmaid for Hire and the author of the new book, Always a Bridesmaid (For Hire). She’s the heartbeat behind the website The Things I Learned From, and the author of the Amazon-bestselling ebook, All My Friends are Engaged. She can be found in New York City wearing old bridesmaid dresses to the grocery store, on first dates, or double-fisting slices of one-dollar pizza.

There are few phrases more exciting than “OMG, I’m engaged” floating in your eye from your BFF. Whether it’s over FaceTime, in-person, or writing in an all-caps text message, seconds after the question, and hopefully a bottle of champagne, has been popped.   Chances are you’ll feel like you just got engaged too, finding yourself shedding happy tears, jumping up and down in pure excitement, and perhaps even wondering what you should plan first for the upcoming wedding.   As a professional bridesmaid, whose job it is to often times be the “bridal party’s wrangler” making sure that the bride’s close friends are keeping calm and not creating chaos, I’ve seen bridesmaids and maid-of-honors over-stress the bride by trying to do too much for her and the wedding in the first few weeks of the engagement.   That’s why it’s important to take a step back so that you don’t suffocate your friend with requests, tasks, and even too much pre-wedding stress, since it was only seconds, days or weeks ago that she just verbally agreed to enter wedding planning chaos with the love of their lives, and of course you, their number one pal.   So hide the new Pinterest board you created, refrain from sending over a spreadsheet of potential vendors, and press pause on sending selfies of you in bridesmaid dresses, for right now. While you’re at it, take note of these 4 things not to do when you hear the news that your BFF is engaged.    
  1. Become Her Wedding Planner
Having a friend who is all about wedding planning can be quite the blessing for any bride-to-be, especially because they’ll appreciate being able to turn to someone for advice and vent sessions, but before you put on the wedding planner hat, ask the bride what kind of help she needs and even what you can do to make the wedding planning flow smoother. Before doing anything, always ask first, so that you don’t step on anyone’s toes.  
  1. Make too Many Promises
When you hear the news that your friend is going to say I Do, you may find yourself so overwhelmed with excitement that you agree to doing too much at once. Before you have a chance to take a deep breathe, you may have promised to be the best maid-of-honor in the world, fly once a month to do wedding tasks with her back in your hometown, and take care of all the bridal tasks yourself. Try not to agree to everything or make false promises off the bat just because you’re thrilled, beyond words, for your friend.  
  1. Assume You’re the Maid-of-Honor
You may have dreamed of being this particular friend’s maid-of-honor for years, but before you tell everyone you know, or write it on Facebook, that you’re the MOH, wait for the bride to ask.  
  1. Give the Bride Reasons to Stress
You may want to warn the bride that she should set a date and book a venue ASAP, but remember that there really shouldn’t be a rush to make those decision in the first month of being engaged. Let the couple sulk in joy for a little bit before then offering to drive around to venues until the bride finds one that sparks her attention and you find one that a good enough dance floor so you can bust out your favorite moves all night long.     Jen Glantz is the author of the new book Always a Bridesmaid (For Hire) and the founder of the head-turning business, Bridesmaid for Hire. She can often be spotted wearing old bridesmaid dresses to the grocery store or on first dates. You can follow her adventure here.

Being a bridesmaid can seriously be the role of a lifetime, if you do it right. If you do it wrong, you’ll find yourself with lingering headaches, dwindling funds in your savings account, and zero free time to do what you want on the weekends. It can start to feel like that internship you had in college, where you worked your butt off and didn’t get paid a cent.   There’s a lot of pressure surrounding you when you’re a member of the bride’s wedding squad, so if you’re finding yourself starting to stress before you’ve stepped into your bridesmaid dress, here are 5 simple things you can do to be a legendary bridesmaid for your best friend.  
  1. Say No
I’ll get right to the point. Start saying no. It’s the best thing you can do for yourself and for the bride. If you can’t make it to something or can’t afford something, give the bride a heads up early. Think she’ll be upset with you? Not if you’re honest and you do it with plenty of time to spare.  
  1. Skip Asking to Help
The most stressful thing you can say to a person who is already stressed out is, “What can I do to help?” Instead of asking, plan nights or weekends where you can sit down with the bride and help her tackle her to-do list.  
  1. Order Your Dress ASAP
The one phone call you don’t want to have to make as a bridesmaid is to the bride the week of her wedding, letting her know your bridesmaid dress won’t be ready in time. These dresses take time to ship to you, so order it the minute you know which dress you have to wear.  
  1. Leave Your Drama at Home
Even if you’re having your own problems in the love department or have a boss that’s constantly making you roll your eyes, leave your drama at home during the wedding or you might risk bringing everyone in the bridal party down.  
  1. Bring the F Word
Weddings should be fun and as a bridesmaid, it’s part of your responsibilities to make sure that the days before the wedding and the big celebration is a time to dance, laugh and snap as many photos as you possibly can with your iPhone camera.       Jen Glantz is the author of the new book Always a Bridesmaid (For Hire) and the founder of the head-turning business, Bridesmaid for Hire. She can often be spotted wearing old bridesmaid dresses to the grocery store or on first dates. You can follow her adventure here.